How long does it take you?

[MrsKellyPierce]

To show your "true" self to someone you are dating? When you stop the mannerisms etc does it take the full 6 months or less?


I think I break all the first date rules I'm pretty much just me I eat a whole lot..no salad for me unless it's a side dish..I tell raunchy jokes...sometimes I'll stick my tongue out with food on it lol just to be funny what can I say Jenny Mccarthy is my HERO lol I talk about exboyfriends etc I guess I'm just who I am on the first date why sell something you aren't. Never had a problem getting a call back lol

[Taom]

as for me personally, I try to live my life as open as possible when it comes to friends and relationships. So it's just me from day one. What you see is what you get.

[MrsKellyPierce]

as for me personally, I try to live my life as open as possible when it comes to friends and relationships. So it's just me from day one. What you see is what you get. see I like that just be yourself and talk about what you want lol I am bringing this up cause my friend Renee has been reading this book Dating For Dummies..I told her that her real problem is..she makes herself to available and discardable for the guy. She just needs more confidence, and stop the pleasing act. But you should read some of the things this book says NOT to do lol

[Taom]

dating and relationships is a common problem for alot of people. hense why there are so many books written on the topic. But like I said, I prefer to just be me. If it's not gonna work out because we're incompatible, I'd rather find that out now and not waste anymore of both of our time.

[MrsKellyPierce]

dating and relationships is a common problem for alot of people. hense why there are so many books written on the topic. But like I said, I prefer to just be me. If it's not gonna work out because we're incompatible, I'd rather find that out now and not waste anymore of both of our time. well I have decided to break every rule that book gives on my next date and see if I get a call back lol

[Taom]

don't worry kelly, I'll call you back


















maybe :P

[MrsKellyPierce]

don't worry kelly, I'll call you back


















maybe :P :lol: can I lose you in ten days?? lol

[Taom]

shouldn't be too hard to pull off

[XPBMX]

You know something, I dropped all pretention years ago. I am who I am at all times and I want somone I am dating to know this from get go.

[svenson]

im me from the begining

[blckhaze]

i usually say one month. i tr to put as much of myself out there for a girl to see, kinda test the waters if you will. My current girl will tell you i was mean to her when we first met, then nice , now im somewhere in the middle. i like using that strategy when meeting new people as it weeds out the pretenders.

[MrsKellyPierce]

You know something, I dropped all pretention years ago. I am who I am at all times and I want somone I am dating to know this from get go. good for you!

[MrsKellyPierce]

i usually say one month. i tr to put as much of myself out there for a girl to see, kinda test the waters if you will. My current girl will tell you i was mean to her when we first met, then nice , now im somewhere in the middle. i like using that strategy when meeting new people as it weeds out the pretenders. lol why were you mean to her?

[$treetz]

i think it varies for me. i'm not the type of person who is afraid to be themself, but i think it depends on the chemistry right from the start.

i've gone out with girls who i felt completely comfortable around and wasn't afraid to bear it all because i got the same vibe back from them.

there's also been girls who have been just way too shy and caused me to be less like myself until they started acting more like themselves.

[blckhaze]

i usually say one month. i tr to put as much of myself out there for a girl to see, kinda test the waters if you will. My current girl will tell you i was mean to her when we first met, then nice , now im somewhere in the middle. i like using that strategy when meeting new people as it weeds out the pretenders. lol why were you mean to her?

long story short, she gave me a dirty look when we first met, and then i found out we'd be working together for a summer, so she got a few cold shoulders. Ironically enough, during the black out in NYC(ans somee of the east USA) i had to spend the nihgt at her moms aparment wiht her whole family. Our whole relationship changed that night/day.

[MrsKellyPierce]

i think it varies for me. i'm not the type of person who is afraid to be themself, but i think it depends on the chemistry right from the start.

i've gone out with girls who i felt completely comfortable around and wasn't afraid to bear it all because i got the same vibe back from them.

there's also been girls who have been just way too shy and caused me to be less like myself until they started acting more like themselves. yeah thats understandable..what I can't stand about some girls they order a big meal and take 2 bites of it and leave the guy with the check why didn't they just order the salad lol

[MrsKellyPierce]

i usually say one month. i tr to put as much of myself out there for a girl to see, kinda test the waters if you will. My current girl will tell you i was mean to her when we first met, then nice , now im somewhere in the middle. i like using that strategy when meeting new people as it weeds out the pretenders. lol why were you mean to her?

long story short, she gave me a dirty look when we first met, and then i found out we'd be working together for a summer, so she got a few cold shoulders. Ironically enough, during the black out in NYC(ans somee of the east USA) i had to spend the nihgt at her moms aparment wiht her whole family. Our whole relationship changed that night/day. awe

[XPBMX]

You know something, I dropped all pretention years ago. I am who I am at all times and I want somone I am dating to know this from get go. good for you!
Thanks but I hope that wasn't a sarcasm because I really did not want to take away from your thread...I just believe NOW that if I want a Transwoman or whatever I want..I need to be completely honest. For example, I came here hoping to meet a TS somehow, but I can tell this site is directly aimed at the sex-industry and has little to nothing to do with simply trying to find a TS that not only wants to meet a guy but one that is looking for a TS and not some dude wnating to spend 1,000$ to merly FUCK a TS.Most if the time these men are married and closet and too cowardly to simply be what they are, gay men that looove beautiful transwomen, BUT they serve as a capital making demographic so..maybe I should shut up =-)

Not that TS making green is wrong at all mind you but I am telling you this site is not for making buddies, Senchi put it more elquently on another thread.

[MrsKellyPierce]

You know something, I dropped all pretention years ago. I am who I am at all times and I want somone I am dating to know this from get go. good for you!
Thanks but I hope that wasn't a sarcasm because I really did not want to take away from your thread...I just believe NOW that if I want a Transwoman or whatever I want..I need to be completely honest. For example, I came here hoping to meet a TS somehow, but I can tell this site is directly aimed at the sex-industry and has little to nothing to do with simply trying to find a TS that not only wants to meet a guy but one that is looking for a TS and not some dude wnating to spend 1,000$ to merly FUCK a TS.Most if the time these men are married and closet and too cowardly to simply be what they are, gay men that looove beautiful transwomen, BUT they serve as a capital making demographic so..maybe I should shut up =-)

Not that TS making green is wrong at all mind you but I am telling you this site is not for making buddies, Senchi put it more elquently on another thread. ha ha no not at all I was being serious I'm glad that you are yourself from the first date. And not all of us escort on here, I don't.

[rvince]

I'm me from the very beggining.
Then again I was close to 30 the last time I have my last "1st date". I definately wasn't so upfront when I was 20.

[$treetz]

i think it varies for me. i'm not the type of person who is afraid to be themself, but i think it depends on the chemistry right from the start.

i've gone out with girls who i felt completely comfortable around and wasn't afraid to bear it all because i got the same vibe back from them.

there's also been girls who have been just way too shy and caused me to be less like myself until they started acting more like themselves. yeah thats understandable..what I can't stand about some girls they order a big meal and take 2 bites of it and leave the guy with the check why didn't they just order the salad lol
yeah that's pretty annoying. especially if you're the guy paying for it lol. it's fine though, if they don't eat all of their dinner, they don't get desert :wink:

[MrsKellyPierce]

i think it varies for me. i'm not the type of person who is afraid to be themself, but i think it depends on the chemistry right from the start.

i've gone out with girls who i felt completely comfortable around and wasn't afraid to bear it all because i got the same vibe back from them.

there's also been girls who have been just way too shy and caused me to be less like myself until they started acting more like themselves. yeah thats understandable..what I can't stand about some girls they order a big meal and take 2 bites of it and leave the guy with the check why didn't they just order the salad lol
yeah that's pretty annoying. especially if you're the guy paying for it lol. it's fine though, if they don't eat all of their dinner, they don't get desert :wink: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: lets not talk about food I have to waitress tonight lol

[Ecstatic]

Being married, I don't date, but I have a few friends with benefits and I see maybe 3 escorts on a regular basis ("escorts with benefits", lol), and I'm honestly me with all of them. If I were single and dating, I would definitely be honest and open about who I am.

[XPBMX]

Being married, I don't date, but I have a few friends with benefits and I see maybe 3 escorts on a regular basis ("escorts with benefits", lol), and I'm honestly me with all of them. If I were single and dating, I would definitely be honest and open about who I am.
My point is well made.

The world would be so much more simpler and so much less painful if people were just honest about what they really are. With everyone.

[BeardedOne]

To show your "true" self to someone you are dating?

I pretty much tried to reveal all on the first date and am always honest about what (Or who) I do. The end result has been about 90% of them get into the relationship on a mission to try and change me, 9% are instantly offended and walk (Saving a great deal of time, effort, and $$$ on my part), and 1% +/- that become reasonably decent friends.

Because I tired of the incessant "I love you just the way you are and I'll love you even more when I change you into who I want you to be" horsehockey, I effectively retired from dating after the final bloodbath of '98.

Now dating is determined entirely by budget, geography, and the common market. In those scenarios they see the real me, dimples and all.

[XPBMX]

Bravo, well said sir.

[Kriss]

wow, good topic :shock: . I like to be honest, what you see is what you get Get, warts and all, balls out, unapolagetic, this is me, insult the waiter, lick the plate, etc. (This may be why I can't hang on to a woman and am an occasional john. A gentleman john however but cynical enough to find nothing wrong with paying for sex 'upfront' as opposed to paying 'in arrears' in "relationships".)
Girls however like romance. Total Honesty unfortuneately signals the death of all romance in a relationship . Romance is replaced at this point by Reality. Girls also like games. I don't. games usually just come back and bit me in the ass (especially as girls love to "move the goalposts")
In my experience girls do NOT want the 'TRUTH', They actually prefer hearing the lies, but they must be the RIGHT lies. She knows that they are lies but the fact that you have guessed the correct deceptions , you kinda passed the test. Older women play far less games and tend to recognise a good thing when they see it, something to do with wisdom and getting tired of being treated like shit i think.

[MrsKellyPierce]

I make at least one good topic out of my every 100 daily posts :lol:

[XPBMX]

yet another good point.

[Ecstatic]

I make at least one good topic out of my every 100 daily posts :lol:
:lol: Kelly, you've zapped off a couple of zingers lately!

[Justwaiting]

no one can just be themselves on the first meeting, theres way to much to a persons feelings and actions to show it all on one day let alone one date unless your the most simplistic person on the planet, be real guys and girls. :-p

[MrsKellyPierce]

I don't think thats true I act exactly how I act with any of my friends and family on the first date.

[Kriss]

I don't think thats true I act exactly how I act with any of my friends and family on the first date.

She did say


unless your the most simplistic person on the planet,:-p

:wink:

[BlackAdder]

Hhmm....Talking about X's on the first, second or third date is the surest way to have me duck out on the way to the bathroom and leave you with the check...Im pretty tolerant of almost anything else...but past relationships are VERBOTEN.

[MrsKellyPierce]

Hhmm....Talking about X's on the first, second or third date is the surest way to have me duck out on the way to the bathroom and leave you with the check...Im pretty tolerant of almost anything else...but past relationships are VERBOTEN. lol really I always ask what's the longest relationship you've been in and why do you think it went wrong I guess I'm just nosey or it may be the psychologist in me. I'M SORRY lol

[Kriss]

Hhmm....Talking about X's on the first, second or third date is the surest way to have me duck out on the way to the bathroom and leave you with the check...Im pretty tolerant of almost anything else...but past relationships are VERBOTEN.

WORD to that. You will hear enough about them later, especially when she is COMPARING you to EX's, That is a red rag to a bull!

[MrsKellyPierce]

Hhmm....Talking about X's on the first, second or third date is the surest way to have me duck out on the way to the bathroom and leave you with the check...Im pretty tolerant of almost anything else...but past relationships are VERBOTEN.

WORD to that. You will hear enough about them later, especially when she is COMPARING you to EX's, That is a red rag to a bull! lol I never compare

[houstonshemalefan]

You've got to be yourself up-front otherwise you're misleading your potential future mate.

Kelly, if you and I went on our first date, and when I came to pick you up you shoved your cock in my mouth and made me swallow your sperm, that would be okay with me. ;p

[Cat]

A long time.

I'm nervous when it comes to dating.