my wife found out that i like shemale's

[deon475]

what should i do never been with one just like looking at them and she did not like it what would u do i told her that i stop looking ar them what would u do i do not want her to leave me because of it what would u do not say anything and just keep it to my self can you help me she thinks that i am gay .i dont like men at ALL just shemales but she does not see it that way can. what would u do need help been wth my wife for 13 years can someone talk to me need help please. :cry: :cry: :cry:

[SarahG]

Maybe just reaffirm to her that you'd never cheat on her or leave her for someone else?

[ILuvGurls]

BUSTED.......


talk about run on sentences.


try to talk to her, it's about all you can do right now.

[Jericho]

Ouch!

Try sitting her down and explaining your fascination?
That it's a fantasy, ya'know, you like watching football, but wouldn't want to play.

[stillies77]

women immediately think you are gay...when i told my girlfriend i liked shemales her response shocked me...she goes...well....should we get a strap on? hahaha

[Rory]

yea, reaffirm that you love her and would not cheat on her.

if she thinks you're gay, she might think the marriage is a sham. try and explain to her that you are not gay-- try and make her understand that there are many different sexualities, not just straight or gay.

also, tell her that you can be attracted both to 'shemales' and women.

also, tell her that when you look at porn, it's just a fantasy, and fantasies are okay, and healthy, and fine. strategically speaking, it might be smart to assert yourself on this point (that fantasies are fine and healthy.) don't go on the offense and yell at her, but gently and lovingly assert yourself.

-do not let the guilt that your culture makes you feel about liking 'shemales' spill over into your talks with your wife. if you seem guilty, it will send the message that you did something wrong.

keep a clear head, and don't send negative vibes.

[Bee]

i dont like men at ALL just shemales but she does not see it that way:cry:

Very sorry to hear that, Deon... I hope things will get better soon

[Vicki Richter]

Tell her a story about how you got some spam in your email and you went to a link. You found it interesting like a two headed goat or three breasted woman. Explain that it was the freaky factor that drew you in, it's obviously not something you want. Then pull of up an image and show her graphically how it doesn't get you excited. Then you say, it was like a train wreck, you shouldn't want to look, but everyone does anyway when they drive past.

[wendy48088]

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[hondarobot]

Judging from the content of this guys post, I would say his best bet would be to flail his arms wildly and repeat the question "What would you do?", amidst a bunch of strange ramblings. It will confuse your wife into submission.

Honestly I have no advice. If you're married to a person who freaks out over porn, it's probably not meant to last. That may sound mean, but really, this is the 21st century. Who freaks out over their partner enjoying porn?

[ron30bi]

women immediately think you are gay...when i told my girlfriend i liked shemales her response shocked me...she goes...well....should we get a strap on? hahaha

Nice!

[SarahG]

Tell her a story about how you got some spam in your email and you went to a link. You found it interesting like a two headed goat or three breasted woman. Explain that it was the freaky factor that drew you in, it's obviously not something you want. Then pull of up an image and show her graphically how it doesn't get you excited. Then you say, it was like a train wreck, you shouldn't want to look, but everyone does anyway when they drive past.

That sounds like a great idea... assuming she didn't walk in on him say, masturbating to it.

[wendy48088]

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[Lone Wolf]

You are totally FUBAR!!

[Bee]

when i told my girlfriend i liked shemales her response shocked me...she goes...well....should we get a strap on? hahaha

Your girlfriend is so AWESOME!

[hwbs]

I remember when I was like 16 or 17...they had those 800#s you could call for free phone fun :D but ended up just being an ad for another # to call...pretty harmless , right? a few weeks later I start getting them calling me back ...even though we had a big house and many people , the finger was always pointed at me....but wait there's more...I tell my friends about this for a good laugh...they take the ball and run with it. they would call these gay numbers and 3 way call my house when I was at work so my parents would answer... yeah those were a few uncomfortable weeks at home :lol:

[Aragon21]

Wow!!!...lots of what should you do!

Well tell her about how feminine TGs are. Honestly can't put myslf in your situation. If I eventually marry a GG, she will know my likes and dislikes...way before that ring settles on her finger! If I get so fortunate as to have a TG wife, she to will know my likes and dislikes...

Ask yourself why you are not being straight up and honest with your wife.

[callahac]

When my wife found out she freaked out as well and thought I was gay. After a while she chilled out, realized that shemales can be hot and look just as hot as real women if not hotter. She is now for the most part prety cool with it. She watches shemale porn with me. Incorporates shemale fantasies while we are in bed, such as using a dildo in my ass or making me suck it. It is such a turn on.

Sometimes she does get insecure, but those times are few and far between. Usually this happens when I can't perform and then I get the question "Are you not hard becasue I don't have a cock? Do you need to be with a shemale? Do you still like pussy or are you only into cock? Would you rather be gay?" Once I let her know that I still find her attractive, I just had a bad night (tired, drank too much, etc) she mellows out.

I am very open with her now about my fantasies and my desires. I let her know that I love cock, it's my favorite, but I still love pussy too. I let her know that in the right circumstances I get turned on by guys as well. But those times are few and far between. Ever since she found out about my love for shemales we have a much more open and honest relationship. She tells me about some of her fantasies that sometimes involve lesbian stuff as well as rape, bondage, vampires etc.

Bottom line is their is more to a relationship besides sex, and if you are open about the sex you should be open to other aspects of your marriage and make sure your needs are being met there as well.

[Ant-Man]

Tell your wife this is a fantasy you could never experience in real life. To prove it to her, take her with you to visit a TS with the understanding that your wife is in total control of the situation. Then make an appointment with Mia Fever when she visits your area. In a private call to Mia, set it up that she ignores you and goes for your wife. Your wife will never see this coming as this is a guy gay thing, right? Trust me, the action will start the moment you cross the threshold. If you are lucky your wife will let you join in on the fun. If you are really lucky your wife will not leave you for Mia, and you will take your marriage to a new level, enjoying ts porn together.

The more likely scenario is that Mia will hang up on you immediately, for she will recognize the voice of the merry post prankster that you are...

[Aragon21]

When my wife found out she freaked out as well and thought I was gay. After a while she chilled out, realized that shemales can be hot and look just as hot as real women if not hotter.

Dude, did you just say "look just as hot as real women"? TGs are women...if that is not in your vocabulary then, please, to save yourself some major grief, appreciate these beautiful ladies that grace us with their responses!

Lesson 1 Woooman
Lesson 2 Woooman
Lesson 3 Woooman

Lesson 4-100 I like "XYZ" on my women and damn I like the variety! 8)

[Vicki Richter]

You guys are on crack. This is the worst advice ever. Deny Deny Deny. You are going to get the guy divorced. Although all marriages end up that way anyway, he may want to prolong his.

[stillies77]

basically it allcomes down to how open his girl is...if she is very conservative and only likes it missionary and all that...then dont tell her anything.

[callahac]

You guys are on crack. This is the worst advice ever. Deny Deny Deny. You are going to get the guy divorced. Although all marriages end up that way anyway, he may want to prolong his.

Vicki,
What advice did I give that would make you think I'm on crack?

BTW you are the hottest.

[hondarobot]

The guy has already been busted and apparently made a confession. Something tells me someone in this thread makes a better detective then a legal council.

Here is my pro bono advice-

Follow your wife around the house, inexplicably shouting the phrase "What would you do?" repeatedly and slapping her on the ass with your dick. Eventually she'll give in and agree to jerk you off while you enjoy the online pornography of your choice.

Another case closed by the good people at Honda, Robot and Robot.

8)

[wendy48088]

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[specialk]

Tell her a story about how you got some spam in your email and you went to a link. You found it interesting like a two headed goat or three breasted woman. Explain that it was the freaky factor that drew you in, it's obviously not something you want. Then pull of up an image and show her graphically how it doesn't get you excited. Then you say, it was like a train wreck, you shouldn't want to look, but everyone does anyway when they drive past.

This is really the only good advice so far, and Ant Man ...put away the comic books.....funny but not any help :lol:

[wendy48088]

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[wombat33]

Tell her a story about how you got some spam in your email and you went to a link. You found it interesting like a two headed goat or three breasted woman. Explain that it was the freaky factor that drew you in, it's obviously not something you want. Then pull of up an image and show her graphically how it doesn't get you excited. Then you say, it was like a train wreck, you shouldn't want to look, but everyone does anyway when they drive past.


LOL.

Good advice.

[crayons]

what should i do never been with one just like looking at them and she did not like it what would u do i told her that i stop looking ar them what would u do i do not want her to leave me because of it what would u do not say anything and just keep it to my self can you help me she thinks that i am gay .i dont like men at ALL just shemales but she does not see it that way can. what would u do need help been wth my wife for 13 years can someone talk to me need help please. :cry: :cry: :cry:

This was probably the hardest thing I've ever had to read because it lacks any puntuation whatsoever. I'm just curious whether this is how you write normally or did you just decide since this was a webforum you wouldn't take your grammar serious?
Anyhoo, I'd Vicki Richter's excuse. Sounds smart enough for me to buy. I'd avoid the "sitting down and explaing" routine because that would make me think you've though about this long enough and probably have other things hidden. Not to mention coming of that serious sounds creepy.

[vanished]

what should i do never been with one just like looking at them and she did not like it what would u do i told her that i stop looking ar them what would u do i do not want her to leave me because of it what would u do not say anything and just keep it to my self can you help me she thinks that i am gay .i dont like men at ALL just shemales but she does not see it that way can. what would u do need help been wth my wife for 13 years can someone talk to me need help please. :cry: :cry: :cry:

My ex-monster/gf found out not only did I LOVE shemales, transgendered girls but that (gasp) one was my friend of many years. We ended up parting company, me and the Monst, and I'm far freer for it. Now I'm free to love and spend time with who I truly want to and not what Society requires me to. Trouble is, dating n the TG world is (and we've seen this as topics here) very difficult. But one day, my Queen will come.....

Good luck with the marriage thing - it's like a fishhook, your problem - either way, you're going to feel pain.

[phxguy]

Prepare for the possibility that if your wife or girlfriend finds out you're into TSs and she doesn't dump you, the next time you get into an argument, she might call you "faggot".

[the Adrienne Barbeaubot]

I feel for ya Deon! Unfortunately, I cannot give you any advice because I've never been married. Others here have given you advice on how to proceed. The Rest is up to you. Good luck.

[scroller]

You guys are on crack. This is the worst advice ever. Deny Deny Deny. You are going to get the guy divorced. Although all marriages end up that way anyway, he may want to prolong his.

It's funny 'cuz it's true.

(Well, it's not really funny but I couldn't think of anything else to say. Maybe "I think I love you"? Nah, that's not helping.)

[Ant-Man]

Tell her a story about how you got some spam in your email and you went to a link. You found it interesting like a two headed goat or three breasted woman. Explain that it was the freaky factor that drew you in, it's obviously not something you want. Then pull of up an image and show her graphically how it doesn't get you excited. Then you say, it was like a train wreck, you shouldn't want to look, but everyone does anyway when they drive past.

This is really the only good advice so far, and Ant Man ...put away the comic books.....funny but not any help :lol:

Excuse me, but I always view forums like this as "for entertainment purposes only". Excuse me twice, but this guy seems to be the classic hit-and-run poster out to have some fun with all the folks taking it waaaay too seriously. Of course if he has part of a brain he will take Vicki's brilliant duck-and-dodge advice should he (doubtfully) turn out to be sincere.

Although my marriage failed at seven years it was not due to any lack of honesty on my part. My wife was fully aware of my "gay" experiments and the one time I did stray during the time we were together. So, with the right partner, my tongue-in-cheek advice might not be so far-fetched. But i still maintain this guy is a merry prankster & someone Mia would know.

[specialk]

Tell her a story about how you got some spam in your email and you went to a link. You found it interesting like a two headed goat or three breasted woman. Explain that it was the freaky factor that drew you in, it's obviously not something you want. Then pull of up an image and show her graphically how it doesn't get you excited. Then you say, it was like a train wreck, you shouldn't want to look, but everyone does anyway when they drive past.

This is really the only good advice so far, and Ant Man ...put away the comic books.....funny but not any help :lol:

Excuse me, but I always view forums like this as "for entertainment purposes only". Excuse me twice, but this guy seems to be the classic hit-and-run poster out to have some fun with all the folks taking it waaaay too seriously. Of course if he has part of a brain he will take Vicki's brilliant duck-and-dodge advice should he (doubtfully) turn out to be sincere.

Although my marriage failed at seven years it was not due to any lack of honesty on my part. My wife was fully aware of my "gay" experiments and the one time I did stray during the time we were together. So, with the right partner, my tongue-in-cheek advice might not be so far-fetched. But i still maintain this guy is a merry prankster & someone Mia would know.

Sorry ant Man...but I did enjoy your post, got a laugh out of it! The other guy...he's on his own :)

[tsntx]

Maybe just reaffirm to her that you'd never cheat on her or leave her for someone else?

THIS IS THE BEST ADVICE... the rest will get you caught b/c its a lie to cover tracks...

[mikie49]

When I got caught, I was masturbating to TS porn on the computer when the wife walked in. I had to fess up to the wife of 35 years, yes I am BI and had to admit it to her. I had kept my sexual orientation secret as my family does not except gays. If I had been brought up at this time I would have come out when I was in my teens. I love TS girls and if I did not have this much time invested in this marriage I would defiantly try and find a LTR with with one!
Mike

[TJT]

As multiply married man I advise denial and evasion.

Even if she caught a Ladyboy w/ a ragin hard-on inhaling a chunk of your anatomy you go "What transexual?" and play innocent.

Similar tactics worked for our last President and his women,it will work for you. If it doesn't you're in no more trouble than you're already in.

She'll eventually get over it. If she doesn't it will cost you a chunk of money and half of your assets,but after that you'll be free to pursue your perversions.

[ezed]

what should i do never been with one just like looking at them and she did not like it what would u do i told her that i stop looking ar them what would u do i do not want her to leave me because of it what would u do not say anything and just keep it to my self can you help me she thinks that i am gay .i dont like men at ALL just shemales but she does not see it that way can. what would u do need help been wth my wife for 13 years can someone talk to me need help please. :cry: :cry: :cry:

But you still came back and told us about it. Tell her, "I didn't know what I was looking at". Everyone in the pictures seemed so happy! Tell her, "I am not Gay!" Tell her, I need sex constantly to keep me from wandering! I am a MAN! I have needs! And you leave me to peer at a computer! I WANNA CUMMM.... I WANNA CUMM! IS THAT SO BAD! WHY WON'T YOU HELP ME CUM? WHY? WHY? WHY?

It may work, or may not. If not you can always come back here and tell us about it.

[Vicki Richter]

As multiply married man I advise denial and evasion.

Even if she caught a Ladyboy w/ a ragin hard-on inhaling a chunk of your anatomy you go "What transexual?" and play innocent.

Similar tactics worked for our last President and his women,it will work for you. If it doesn't you're in no more trouble than you're already in.

She'll eventually get over it. If she doesn't it will cost you a chunk of money and half of your assets,but after that you'll be free to pursue your perversions.

Deny Deny Deny. Anyway - you need to give us more of the story original poster. What were the circumstances to you getting caught only then can we assist with deeper more extreme lies to tell.

[ballzNnutz]

wow that sucks the big one.

[wendy48088]

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[suckseed]

have you tried explaining that you simply think about cock a lot? try it: she'll be totally relieved. If that fails, point out that, cock aside, the T's are hotter than her.

[a994]

Tell your wife this is a fantasy you could never experience in real life. To prove it to her, take her with you to visit a TS with the understanding that your wife is in total control of the situation. Then make an appointment with Mia Fever when she visits your area. In a private call to Mia, set it up that she ignores you and goes for your wife. Your wife will never see this coming as this is a guy gay thing, right? Trust me, the action will start the moment you cross the threshold. If you are lucky your wife will let you join in on the fun. If you are really lucky your wife will not leave you for Mia, and you will take your marriage to a new level, enjoying ts porn together.

The more likely scenario is that Mia will hang up on you immediately, for she will recognize the voice of the merry post prankster that you are...


Or she might impregnate your wife instead.

[yodajazz]

I would advise not to lie, unless you are really going to give up looking at TS stuff. You can get through this and be closer than ever, but you have to be able to answer all of her questions such as; are you gay? have you or will you cheat? Why did you hide this from me? etc. I can answer all those questions and more. But before I take the time to give a more lengthy response I want to know if Deon is really going to read this and respond.

I went through it and I am still married. I just passed the twenty year mark. There is no such thing as happily ever after, for all you single folks out there. My marriage has some serious problems, because one of us is crazy. But if we figure out which one of us it is, even that could be worked out.

[Urian]

I don´t have any problem with my wife because she is a Post-Op Transsexual woman and my situation this type of posts sounds hilarious. :oops:

[El Nino]

Listen to Vicvki. She has a brilliant mind.

[ottorocket]

what should i do never been with one just like looking at them and she did not like it what would u do i told her that i stop looking ar them what would u do i do not want her to leave me because of it what would u do not say anything and just keep it to my self can you help me she thinks that i am gay .i dont like men at ALL just shemales but she does not see it that way can. what would u do need help been wth my wife for 13 years can someone talk to me need help please. :cry: :cry: :cry:



I think one of the best things you could do right now is show her your OP here. Have her read your plea to the HA community and the understanding you are seeking about the whole issue. Maybe just maybe if she is a cool chick, she will sympathize with you, and find that your relationship is not threatened by shemale porn, shemales in general. One of the biggest aspects is her ignorance about TG life, and your interest in it. She feels threatened, betrayed, and confused... All of which can be allayed
if she familiarized herself with exactly what your intentions are with the porn, and the people on sites like HA itself. Forums like this are part of the community, and an outlet for sexual fun, but if you keep her out of that part of your life and she finds out like she did...well she has the right to be upset. Give her time, don't panic, and make her the #1 priority as thats any womans main desire, especially in marraige. YOUR sexual fantasies come second to her emotions, but maybe there can be a melding of both.

[dgtlmstry]

Deon, (if you are a real poster) I think it really does all depend on your wife. She seems to be pretty conservative, but then again it might just have been the initial surprise of it all. If, however, she is as conservative as she sounds, AND you really want to stay with such a person given the new side of yourself you have just discovered, then I would (unfortunately) have to say that Vicki's advice is probably the best. Deny it, find some b/s excuse, and then get over it or else she will bust you again. Especially since she will really be playing detective in the future. If, on the other hand, she is more rational and can talk about it I would be totally honest with her. Whatever this TS question means to you, once you figure it out (is it just fantasy or will you really want to try it someday) you should tell her exactly that. I told my wife, not because I was busted, but because I didn't want to hide the website all the fucking time, and I knew that I would eventually want to have a sexual experience. She, it turns out, was pretty open about it and still is. So we also watch the porn, and I have even been able to visit with a few ladies with her knowledge, because she knows it is a sexual thing. But that's is my story, it might be quite different for you. Good luck chief.

[InHouston]

Tell her to shut up, and go in the kitchen and you make you some pot pie.

[pharroh79]

If you're comming to Hung angels.com for advice you contradicted yourself when you told her you would stop.... unless this is the only thread you are reading.

[ezed]

Tell her to shut up, and go in the kitchen and you make you some pot pie.

Damn, I was reading this thread again, and that was gonna be the jist of my next reply! InHouston, ya beat me to it.....but a pot pie?

[TheGuard]

Maybe he's diabetic.

BA DUH DUM CLANG!

any right-minded man would rather have some apple fucking pie.

or apple regular pie.

but I prefer apple FUCKING PIE!




...I've had too much caffeine today.