Sigh...so lost :(

[Wicked Twister]

Hey guys and girls...
i've never really posted much on here, mostly just been a lurker to stay up to date on all the latest an greatest in the TS community. I guess im not sure what im trying to say and could really use some guidance from those that have "been" there or those that are compassionate enough to offer advice, thoughts.

im 25 years old and found out about 5 years ago i had an extreme TS fetish. Im now engaged to be married and this has left me wondering "what if" I have never been with a TS or a man for that matter, however I do have a guy friend who is gay that I have talked about this with on several occassions and has offered to well, let me "try" it out with him. I guess I havnt had the courage to do that yet either. Ive even gone as far as to set up a date with a local TS, but backed out at the last minute and told her something had come up. My biggest fear is that it wont be like what I thought it would be, which in turn would ruin my facisination all together. when i look at porn i dont even look at female porn anymore, and god forbid my fiance found out my idea of a good jerk-off session :(

my other huge concern is safety. i cant be bringing anything home, and i value my health and my life. this obstcale seems to be the hardest, i cant get over this fear and allow me to engage in a sexual encounter with a TS, though i so badly want to.

Ill elaborate more on this later, my fiance just got home from work......till then, if anyone wants to comment, id be glad to listen..

Wicked Twister

(if this is the wrong forum, please move to the correct one)

[Ecstatic]

Nice of your friend to offer, but being with another guy is quite another thing from being with a tgirl. Orientation (gay, bi, straight) is distinct from gender identity (male, female, trans). You would get a sense of what another guy's cock feels like, but you would still be with another guy. If you're bi-curious, by all means, test those waters, but if you're really attracted to T's and not to guys, then I think you should test those waters instead: Eros or Craig's List, hook up noncomittally for an hour with a TS provider, and then see how you feel. If it was a passing fantasy, no harm, no foul, just move on and let it go. But if it's real, you'll get a good sense of it, and you can decide what to do from there.

[ts_lover769]

Very good advice Ecstatic!

I'd also suggest that before you tie-the-not with your fiancee you explore these feeling as Ecstatic has suggested. The best thing you can do for yourself is to be honest with yourself, it sounds to me like you are not sure to whom you are utimately and most preferable attacted male, female or t-girl. It also seems like you are a bit afraid of what the outcome might end up being, after all you are young, 25 y.o., so I can understand that you maybe worried about any social stigma that not being purely hetro or hetro at all might arise especially with regards to you finacee and your family and friends. As long as you practice safe sex and act carefully you should be fine, believe me it would be better for you to find out now who you are and what you are into instead of down the road, trapped in a marriage that you maybe regretting and miserable, it wouldn't be fair to you or to your finacee! If your gay friend is someone you find attarctive and can imagine being someone you could see having sex with then give it a go! Also, as Ecstatic has suggested go to Eros.com and make arrangements to meet up with a TS to your liking, if after these experiences you'd rather be with your gentic girlfriend then you've solved your problem.

Just remember to practice safe sex!!!!!!!!