Asexual, but I like to watch

[Mirgofino]

After having thought for a long time I am pretty sure I am asexual. I never, ever, meet another person I am sexually attracted to. I like to watch, though, otherwise it would be weird to be in here or have had subscriptions to, for instance, Femout. Anyone else out there who are like this?

[StevenDavid]

Do you like to watch in person?

[Mirgofino]

I don't know but I don't think so.

[StevenDavid]

I don't know but I don't think so.

That’s cool. Everyone has their own preferences.

I would have trouble just watching in person without being used as a cuck to service one or both of the others involved. I prefer to not be offered any reciprocation whatsoever and just used to enhance their experience.

[Mirgofino]

Sounds like a nightmare to me, but to each their own. :) As long as everyone involved are happy then it is all good. And apparently I prefer not being involved. Perhaps it changes some day, who knows?

[filghy2]

If you get aroused while watching you are definitely not asexual. A truly asexual person would be indifferent to porn. There may be various psychological reasons why you don't want to do it in person.

[Mirgofino]

I don't get aroused while watching porn, so yes, I am asexual. I am quite sure of that, but thanks for your thoughts.

[Fitzcarraldo]

I don't get aroused while watching porn, so yes, I am asexual. I am quite sure of that, but thanks for your thoughts.

Then what is it you like about watching porn?

[Mirgofino]

The short answer is the various beauty of the different performers, when it is easy to see that they like what they are doing. Nothing is more horrible than watching someone who does not like it. And I like masturbating to it, but I don't aroused by it, before that. It feels quite intimate to answer this but I like the curiosity.

[GroobySteven]

Thanks for sharing, I'm sure to many of us, it sounds quite strange but I do appreciate hearing from you.

[Fitzcarraldo]

The short answer is the various beauty of the different performers, when it is easy to see that they like what they are doing. Nothing is more horrible than watching someone who does not like it. And I like masturbating to it, but I don't aroused by it, before that. It feels quite intimate to answer this but I like the curiosity.

It is odd that you don't get aroused while masturbating.

[Mirgofino]

Yes, that would be odd, if I did not, but I do. That is HOW I get aroused like some other asexuals. If that was unclear then maybe it is because my first language is not English. Asexuality is a complex issue. I think a lot of people who do not belong to the majority of what sexuality can be, or not be, are confusing what we think, we are with what we actually are. There are questions we do not even ask ourselves for a long time, because we do not know that that is an option. The power of being told, and / or telling yourself something for a long time can take a lot of time to unravel. You can even find people, who work with human sexuality, claiming that asexuality does not exist. Just like other areas of life, like being transgender, has been claimed to not exist, by people who, for some reason, think they must mean this, perhaps because of some religious ideas. In my view one of the best things anyone can do for themselves is questioning, and keep questioning, whatever we want, in life. In this way life can always be both a life to live, and a life to study.

[GroobySteven]

It is odd that you don't get aroused while masturbating.

What's 'odd' to one person, may not be 'odd' to another. There is a physical need (or want) for us to have to orgasm for physical and mental health reasons.

[Mirgofino]

Yes. What is "odd" to some is just life to others. I am also on the autism spectrum, which can seem odd to others. To me it is just me.

[Fitzcarraldo]

What's 'odd' to one person, may not be 'odd' to another. There is a physical need (or want) for us to have to orgasm for physical and mental health reasons.

Yes, but achieving orgasm absent arousal doesn't sound possible.

[Mirgofino]

I have a hard time understanding what is unclear in what I have already written. Some asexuals masturbate and then we get aroused. But not before. Asexuality is about not being sexually attracted to anyone. This does not, however, mean that all asexuals do not have sex. Some do, some don't. Some prefer to masturbate. Some do not masturbate at all, I have read. It is part of a spectrum, just like other parts of sexuality is.

[GroobySteven]

Yes, but achieving orgasm absent arousal doesn't sound possible.

You've obviously never been part of a porn shoot :-)

[Fitzcarraldo]

Some asexuals masturbate and then we get aroused.

I can understand that, but previously you said you don't get aroused. But now that I reread it, I see that I missed the end:

And I like masturbating to it, but I don't aroused by it, before that.

I didn't notice the "before that."

[Mirgofino]

Okay. Thanks for letting me know.