Tips on meeting Tgurls in Real Life

[FionaFortune]

I thought it may be helpful for the members here to start a thread detailing some
good tips for meeting Tgurls in real life.

I am using the phrase tgurls to have a wide spectrum meaning. It includes
everyone from post SRS women, to just starting hormones, to Transvestites,
to Crossdressers, to Non-binary, to Pan-sexual, to Sissy.

Per the rules of the forum please do not mention pay2play or escorting.

One thing that struck me from me from my past hookups with men is that
a large percentage of the guys have said it was difficult to find non-pro
tgurls.

I find this a bit ironic because I know a ton of shy Crossdressers who would
love to meet a caring, respectful man.

The first tip that comes to mind is ads. Craigslist is dead but Doublelist is
working. I would suggest that a posting there can bring some interest.

If you write an ad that emphasizes your good qualities and desire to treat
her right, you can get some play. Include a picture.

Second tip is an online community called Fetlife. I have met many guys
from my profile there.

What say you?

[Mirgofino]

Fetlife seems like a great choice for me, thanks.

[MrFanti]

What say you?
Hmmmm....
I have quite a few friends in the LGBTQ+ community so this really hasn't been a problem.......

[FionaFortune]

I am Curious MrFanti , Do you get set up by friends?, Meet at parties/social gatherings?

Maybe meet at a Pride event?

[FionaFortune]

One other avenue to meet Tgurls, the dating sites.

I was on Tinder for a few months awhile back. I got a lot of interest and a few hookups.

Anyone try that?

Bumble, Plenty of fish, etc...

[SanDiegoPervySage]

Fetlife is ok

Grindr and Jack’d are a go to. As long as you’re fairly attractive and have decent pics, you shouldn’t have much trouble. POF is hit or miss

[FionaFortune]

POF = Plenty of Fish.

I like to go to drag shows sometimes and I have met some guys there. So stopping in on a
drag show from time to time could be a could way to meet

[FionaFortune]

Another tip is to check Meetup for Tgurl groups. I had a group that met monthly
and respectful admirers were invited for some of our meetings

[MrFanti]

I am Curious MrFanti , Do you get set up by friends?, Meet at parties/social gatherings?
Maybe meet at a Pride event?
Not really set up.....
I mean if one has a large amount of friends within the LGTBTQ+ community, then no need to "get set-up", you meet people through the natural order of friendships...
Examples: Events, house parties, local bars, etcetera.....

[CORVETTEDUDE]

I for one, appreciate this information. Thank you for being helpful, Fiona.

[FionaFortune]

Thanks CorvetteDude, Kisses

[FionaFortune]

There is an app called Taimi which is specifically for LGBTQ+ , Never tried it myself but there are
some good reviews.

Anyone here have experience with Taimi?

[bryanferryfan2]

Those are good tips Fiona

[rhh33]

I thought it may be helpful for the members here to start a thread detailing some
good tips for meeting Tgurls in real life.

I am using the phrase tgurls to have a wide spectrum meaning. It includes
everyone from post SRS women, to just starting hormones, to Transvestites,
to Crossdressers, to Non-binary, to Pan-sexual, to Sissy.

Per the rules of the forum please do not mention pay2play or escorting.

One thing that struck me from me from my past hookups with men is that
a large percentage of the guys have said it was difficult to find non-pro
tgurls.

I find this a bit ironic because I know a ton of shy Crossdressers who would
love to meet a caring, respectful man.

The first tip that comes to mind is ads. Craigslist is dead but Doublelist is
working. I would suggest that a posting there can bring some interest.

If you write an ad that emphasizes your good qualities and desire to treat
her right, you can get some play. Include a picture.

Second tip is an online community called Fetlife. I have met many guys
from my profile there.

What say you?

Due to circumstances I have to seek these connections in public places, like TS party or ABS. Really hit or miss, hoping new TLounge in NYC will provide more...

[FionaFortune]

If I make it to NYC in 2024 that place will be on my list to visit. Since the closing of the Las Vegas Lounge and Motherlode/Divas in SF there are very few Tgurl-centric bars and clubs left.

If you make it to Phoenix, you could try Cruisin on 7th. I went there a lot last year while I was temporarily working in the area. That place is great, Lots of Tgurls, hooked up with a guy or another gurl
every visit.

[FionaFortune]

Another site that may useful for those looking is Squirt.org -

They have a comprehensive list of hookup spots in almost every
US city. They also have a quite a few TGurl listings in most cities.

I have found a few other gurls and a bunch of nice Daddies there.

[Mirgofino]

Finding a crossdresser as a lover would be a dream come true. I used to think I was straight, because I was indoctrinated into thinking so. Then I started to think I was asexual, because I thought I was not into anything, but then I discovered tgirls, and crossdressers, and my theory of myself was destroyed by all these beauties. All I could say was: Wow! Such beauty. Why have I missed that for so long.

[FionaFortune]

Finding a crossdresser as a lover would be a dream come true. I used to think I was straight, because I was indoctrinated into thinking so. Then I started to think I was asexual, because I thought I was not into anything, but then I discovered tgirls, and crossdressers, and my theory of myself was destroyed by all these beauties. All I could say was: Wow! Such beauty. Why have I missed that for so long.

You should take the time to meet a Tgurl, I think you will be satisfied sexually. We have the sex drive of a man and use that desire to please our lovers and ourselves. Kisses

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[Mirgofino]

Yes, thanks. Whew, it suddenly got hot in here.

[FionaFortune]

Thanks Mirgofino, I accepted your friend request. I will be in Las Vegas from Oct to May this year so DM me if you want to meet. Kisses

[FionaFortune]

Another place to meet tgurls came to mind, but this can be hit or miss.

Check your Swinger/Sex clubs to see if they have a Tgurl night.

United Sex Addicts has Twice weekly Tgurl parties in Van Nuys and South LA

In Portland, The Velvet Rope has a Tgurl night once a month. Sanctuary and Club Privata also
regular Tgurl nights.

In Las Vegas Studio 5150 has one.

[FionaFortune]

Transgender Day of Remembrance is coming up in November. November 17.

There will be quite few events in most urban areas to commemorate this.

If you want to support the community as a respectful ally, your presence would be
welcome at most events. Could be a good way to make some connections.

The golden rule to "Just don't act like a creepy chaser", should go without saying here.

[FionaFortune]

There are 2 big Tgurl events in Las Vegas every year, The events have meetups at bars and shows all over Las Vegas.
This is a great venue to meet Tgurls.

"Divas" October 22 - October 27 https://divalas.vegas/ They usually do it at Bally's/Horseshoe

and

Sin City Soiree aka Viva Wildside - Usually in May every year https://www.instagram.com/vivawildside/

[CORVETTEDUDE]

Do any of you ladies ever visit the Gulf Coast??

[tssocurious]

New Jersey?

[FionaFortune]

Do any of you ladies ever visit the Gulf Coast??

You mean like Biloxi, Mobile, Pensacola? Probably a lot of stuff in New Orleans.

Tampa St Pete has events too

[TS Evelyn Summers]

Just go to a Casino and visit the bar ... bound to run into one ;)

[Nikka]

New Jersey?

lol ...

[FionaFortune]

@TSEvelynSummers - Just go to a Casino and visit the bar ... bound to run into one

Q. Which Casino bars are the most Tgurl friendly?

[Helvis2012]

Thanks Fiona. Great thread.

[FionaFortune]

Thanks @Helvis Kisses

I will be in Las Vegas for the winter and I am thinking of holding weekly Tgurl parties there. I will post the details when I set up the first one.

It would be great to meet some of the members from here.

[FionaFortune]

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If you are i Las Vegas, there is new Tgurl night.

Late Thursdays from 10pm to 4am at Freezone (On Naples Between Paradise and University)

I will be checking this out.

[Helvis2012]

Always be polite!

[Horsemanuk]

Some good tips

[FionaFortune]

Thanks @HorsemanUK, Kisses

[Helvis2012]

That's a good idea. I put together a meetup at a party called Secret in New York a while ago. . . time flies!

Was a great night, finally meeting people from the site that you already know. Fun!

[FionaFortune]

Thanks @Helvis Meetups are great.

For a guy who wants to meet Tgirls setting up a meetup could be good option.

I used to rent a motel room, invite my Tgurl friends over and advertise it on Craigslist and Fetlife for guys and gurls
to attend.

I really get off on group scenes and being watched, those parties were hot. One of the memories that always makes me cum
is a scene where I got spit-roasted by 2 really hung guys while my gurlfriends and guys watched.

That fleeting feeling of panic when his big cock stretched me, ploughing into my ass while the big cock in my mouth went deep in my
throat briefly halting my air flow. Pure panic, then I see the people watching it all, feeling shame and panic all at once like that
always makes me cum.

So hell yeah, set up some meetups, motel party nights. Advertise them on Doublelist, Fetlife, Meetup.com. Squirt, Grindr etc...
and have some fun!

[Maxxdeep]

I have been wanting to meet a cute, smart ts male for a while but it seems it would be easier to find a unicorn. I have memberships to many sites but no luck. Mostly just trolls and bots it seems. It would be great to meet someone who isn't fake or pay a fortune on dating sites.

[FionaFortune]

@Maxxdeep There are going to be local events where you are for Transgender Day of Remembrance in Nov.

I would suggest you volunteer for an event. All events run on volunteers, you will meet a few gurls for real and maybe make a connection.

[Maxxdeep]

I'll look into that, thanks.

[FionaFortune]

Thinking of having a party at a Las Vegas hotel room soon. Anyone interested ?

[FionaFortune]

Diva Las Vegas was this weekend -- https://divalas.vegas/index.html
Lots of Tgirls in town.

[FionaFortune]

Transgender Day of Remembrance is Monday the 20th of November.

We love support at the events for this. So find an event near you.

[BigPoppa]

I am! Keep me posted.

[FionaFortune]

Anyone ever use Taimi?

[jammo22]

This is an excellent and intuitive thread, thanks Fiona! I’ve used Taimi in the past but I prefer to meet someone out in public. Online dating can be great but I’ve always struggled with it to be honest

[FionaFortune]

Thanks @Jammo22 I agree. Two things about meeting people off the apps :

#1 the huge ghost/flake factor. I find that 50 to 70% of the meets I set end up ghosting. Can't tell you how many time I have gotten ready for a guy who is hot to fuck me, we set a time and place and he just ghosts.

#2 There is a danger factor to meeting randos in a non public place.

[FionaFortune]

I was at a drag show in gay bar on the Friday before New Year's and was kinda surprised
to see about 6 other Tgurls there that were not in the show. (Badlands Bar in Las Vegas)

Drag shows have always been a good place to meet Tgurls.

A lot of Tgurls are extremely closeted and shy for various reasons: shame, fear, hiding
that part of themselves from a Significant Other, etc...

Drag shows are an uniquely accepting social gathering where a shy tgurl can feel relatively
secure.

So if you are looking to connect with a Tgurl IRL you may want to stop a drag show now and then.

[Mirgofino]

I think I will stop by a drag show this year, then. I hope lots and lots of people feel liberated by being themselves everywhere as time goes by. I sometimes wonder how truly unfree some people must be since they want to take freedom away from others. It is sad. Let's hope 2024 will be a year where human diversity is celebrated and lived out more than ever!

[FionaFortune]

Cheers!

[MrFanti]

As others have stated, one has to get out of the house and go to events such as this --> https://www.sacurrent.com/sanantonio/everything-we-saw-at-the-san-antonio-vogue-nights-1-year-anniversary-mini-ball/Slideshow/33779869/33779884

[FionaFortune]

Definitely, get out to the events and you will meet all kinds of people, some of them may even become friend and lovers. Kisses