Ok..I know its rude to ask now....But when?

[ARMANIXXX]

I know asking about how and why Lisa Kage has passed is insensitive.
I have a sense that it is crude and it somehow lacks refinement on my part to ask what the hell happened and expect an answer. I was raised well, so I know this.

But when? When will it be ok to ask.....When will it become appropriate, Thats what I want to know.

[johnie]

I'm sure she was a lovely person and did not deserve what it was that happened to her. I'm also sure many people had the same thought when they heard of her passing and are curious to know.

[GroobySteven]

See my other posting - ESCORTS, ADULT MODELS & AIDS

[Legend]

I wonder

Scary

[ARMANIXXX]

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Not sure if you are directing the "pussy-mood emotions" at me or not, but just in case you are...... well..... F you. lol

Seriously though,

The reason I wrote this was because on another board, SER specifically, I asked what happened and basically the moderator edits the replies and says that no one "is allowed" to ask because asking is insensitive.

I think there is a sense of insensitivity in asking, but I also feel at the same time it is a valid question based on her "profession", therefore, also appropriate. Insensitive yet appropriate.

That's my take and my point.

[ARMANIXXX]

up ^

[GroobySteven]

Honestly and with all respect to those who want to know for their own safety and not just rubber necking. Assume the worst from any young person who is working in the adult industry and dies of natural causes at a young age.
However, it is just that - an assumption.

Please please just play safe. Get tested if you're having any form of unprotected sex where you or your partner have multiple partners.

Is it insensitive to ask what someone died of? Yes if their is no proof or we simply don't know. You can speculate all you like.

Just assume that anybody you have sex with has the POTENTIAL to be HIV+ or carry other STD's or transmittable diseases.
seanchai

[ARMANIXXX]

seanchai said,

Is it insensitive to ask what someone died of? Yes if their is no proof or we simply don't know. You can speculate all you like.

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Not sure if you typo'd a bit here or not, So mabey you can re-clarify.

Do you feel it is insensitive for someone to just ask what someone died from?

Typically when someone dies, that's like the first question.

[GroobySteven]

seanchai said,

Is it insensitive to ask what someone died of? Yes if their is no proof or we simply don't know. You can speculate all you like.

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Not sure if you typo'd a bit here or not, So mabey you can re-clarify.

Do you feel it is insensitive for someone to just ask what someone died from?

Typically when someone dies, that's like the first question.

Well apart from the typo in "their" I meant what I said - but clarification. If I'm told someone died of natural causes I'm not going to push and ask exactly what - whether it be cancer, AIDS, etc, especially when I don't know the people I'm asking. That's why I stated - assume that it could be AIDS in the case of a young person working in the sex industry dying of natural causes. The probability of it being AIDS is probably higher than other natural causes.
The bottom line is - it doesn't actually matter what they died of IF you are a person visiting sex workers. You've made a choice to have sexual intercourse with an individual you don't have any sexual history on nor an you trust. You need to take responsibility for protecting yourself before the fact, not after. Presumably, you'd be wearing a condom so therefore lowering the risk immeasurably against you but you still need to be aware that you are taking a risk having any form of sexual contact with someone you don't know.
Each person can make that risk assessment and decision for themselves.

Freaking about it after the fact and hearing that "X" escort died of AIDS and you'd been a client isn't good enough. You should be aware of the potential that anyone can have it before making that decision.
seanchai