tgirls, guys & anonymity

[suckseed]

I'm just wondering how badly the girls take it when us guys by and large remain anonymous. I know it's a fact of life for most, between the escorting, the married guys sneaking around, and the guys afraid of being labeled gay, but does it bum the women out very much? Does it kind of hurt?

[TheOne1]

i dont think any of the girls on here care...honestly.
plus i think its a good thing....wouldnt wanna see a bunch of self photos of these guys anyway....right? :king

[suckseed]

True, I'm not looking for that. Just wondering.

[whatsupwithat]

i'm totally ani-anonymity. but if the girl wants it to be that way, i'll respect her wishes.

my ex of many, many years never wanted to tell anyone. i respected her wishes. the bad part is about 10 years down the line she changed her mind and i was put in the position of saying to my family and friends, "uhm hey, uhm, so these past ten years or so i've been living a lie with you. sorry about that."

[BeardedOne]

Hey, I've posted my image here and on other forums before (Thus making me a faceFULL cockbandit), and anyone that's that interested in seeing my mugly ug DESERVES IT!

:lol: :lol:

If a gurl is so hot to see the face that frightens the horses, all she has to do is PM me and I'll gladly scare the bejeezus outta her too! :D

[Castor_Troy05]

I dont see the point in anonimity, so i happily leave my face in my avatar

[hondarobot]

Any guy who posts on here, beyond just fan boy stuff, should be expected to post their pic at some time. The guys who talk shit and hide in the shadows are retarded.

Suckseed brought this topic up, and he hasn't stepped up to the plate yet. TheOne1 guy is a hypocrite because the first posts of his that I saw had a pic of some guy as his avatar (unless he just likes posting anonymous pics as his avatar, I'll assume it was his pic).

B1 and Castor, good guys as always.

I'd still post my pic as my avatar, but I just don't like seeing my beautiful face all the time.

Oh, what the hell, one more time.

Heh, I really do kinda look like a bearded snowman. That's Minneapolis for ya. The shadows beneath the eyes are especially attractive as well, but trust me, I earned 'em.

8)

[ARMANIXXX]

Any guy who posts on here, beyond just fan boy stuff, should be expected to post their pic at some time. The guys who talk shit and hide in the shadows are retarded.

Suckseed brought this topic up, and he hasn't stepped up to the plate yet. TheOne1 guy is a hypocrite because the first posts of his that I saw had a pic of some guy as his avatar (unless he just likes posting anonymous pics as his avatar, I'll assume it was his pic).

B1 and Castor, good guys as always.

I'd still post my pic as my avatar, but I just don't like seeing my beautiful face all the time.

Oh, what the hell, one more time.

Heh, I really do kinda look like a bearded snowman. That's Minneapolis for ya. The shadows beneath the eyes are especially attractive as well, but trust me, I earned 'em.

8)

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I think what you don't understand Honda is it isn't the same apple for everyone.

While it may be easier for you to flaunt and throw around your pic on on a transsexual forum, for others there might be dire consequences.

I remember a while back for example, you mentioned how it shouldn't matter that Eddie Murphy likes transsexuals because he's untouchable since he's got more money than most people ever will. But that isn't really the case. He's got kids. He's got familly (and divorce proceedings btw) who are all part of the black community. And let me tell you, the black community is NEVER gonna except homosexuality or any "offshoots" of it. I guarantee you his own kids would snicker and cry behind his back.

Its good that you to feel comfortable enough show yourself to the internet world, that you have familly and friends who may be understanding of you, just don't think too badly of those who may not have the same luxury.

[hondarobot]

I'm sorry, this isn't a personal attack, but I don't think badly about people who are worried so much about other peoples perception of who they are. I just don't understand them.

Why would anyone care about what anyone else thought of them? A worry like that is a result of fear, guilt, lots of bad things. It doesn't seem healthy to me. I work at a GLBT club now, so this topic would seem easy for me, but I've worked at lots of places.

I've never lied to anyone.

Anyone who is so worried about being accepted by others to the point they create fantasy worlds or other bullshit. . . why?

It's just stupid.

We're all weird and interesting, forget about it, stop being scared of other people.

[ARMANIXXX]

I'm sorry, this isn't a personal attack, but I don't think badly about people who are worried so much about other peoples perception of who they are. I just don't understand them.

Why would anyone care about what anyone else thought of them? A worry like that is a result of fear, guilt, lots of bad things. It doesn't seem healthy to me. I work at a GLBT club now, so this topic would seem easy for me, but I've worked at lots of places.

I've never lied to anyone.

Anyone who is so worried about being accepted by others to the point they create fantasy worlds or other bullshit. . . why?

It's just stupid.

We're all weird and interesting, forget about it, stop being scared of other people.


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I hear what your saying Honda. And I think you are blessed to freely be able to do what you do.

But in terms of others....I think you are forgeting other variables here bro. IMPORTANT variables Honda. Let me ask you this: Are you married? Do you have kids? Do you belong to a church? Does your occupation weigh into a negative balance if people were to find out about you?

Those are certainly not trivial questions bro.....quite pertinent in fact.

Let me give you my brief testimony. I'm a musician, front man in fact. There is no way I could go around and tell people that I like transsexuals and that I fantasize about have a hard TS cock in my ass. LOL LOL LOL

Hilarious. But its the truth. If I were to do that, my career, as humble as it may be, my career would be over.


Again, All Apples aren't really the same.

[whatsupwithat]

Hilarious. But its the truth. If I were to do that, my career, as humble as it may be, my career would be over.


Again, All Apples aren't really the same.

The only way that would happen would be if you were a gospel singer or in a Christian rock band. It would probably add to your career if you're none of those.

besides, being honest with yourself means being honest to others. :)

[TheOne1]

like i said before hondarobot....i dont think people want to see face shots of some dude...including yours.. im glad you take the time to remember all my previous avatars though, makes the time uploading them really worthwhile.
god bless everyone, and get to church tomorrow morning

[whatsupwithat]

oh...and i'm anything but anonymous on here.

hence the myspace link on the bottom of every post! ;)

[suckseed]

Wow, I forgot about this thread. Okay...I'm a musician too. I've been married, I have a very conservative southern family, and I'm not a part of the TS community in any way. To tell you the truth, I've been so busy with GG's lately that I'm really only here because I like you guys. So, I ain't a-gonna put my face up. But that wasn't my point! My point was, do the
women here care, beyond that old thread about put up your photo if you're going to criticize other's looks. Since none of them has responded, I'll assume they don't. I've identified myself to certain individuals here from time to time, but I've already gotten into a public pissing match on my old band's forum after I left and posted an update about my latest project.... it turned out I was videotaped having sex with a groupie and an old bandmate who turned into a foe has the tape and threatened me with its release...that's out there somewhere, and there's nothing I can do about it. But I'm not giving that jerk any extra ammo. He's vindictive and petty.
And let me tell you, walking into a room of hooting and hollering people who are watching a videotape of you and your date having sex right after you've done it is...quite a surprise. :shock:

[whatsupwithat]

it turned out I was videotaped having sex with a groupie and an old bandmate who turned into a foe has the tape and threatened me with its release...that's out there somewhere, and there's nothing I can do about it. But I'm not giving that jerk any extra ammo. He's vindictive and petty.
And let me tell you, walking into a room of hooting and hollering people who are watching a videotape of you and your date having sex right after you've done it is...quite a surprise. :shock:

wow. that really sucks, man. sorry you had and have to deal with that. what an ass that person is to threaten you with something like that. no moral center at all.

[speck]

This is a retarded thread.

Guys seeing escorts...gg or ts....tend to want to retain anonimity.

It has very little to do with being seen with a ts.

It has to do with being involved in illegal acts(like soliciting prostitution).

Now the guys that want a ts girlfriend....thats another matter.

[suckseed]

I'd totally agree with you, man, based on the escorting thing. I'm doing a really bad job of being clear I guess! I guess I don't think of the TS's here as being strictly escorts and pornstars...but I guess that is the majority...peggygee and I think harajuku being the exceptions that leap to mind. I'd presume many of the currently anonymous guys here would remain so strictly becuase of the sexuality thing regardless tho. Fair enough?

[peggygee]

This is a retarded thread.

Guys seeing escorts...gg or ts....tend to want to retain anonimity.

It has very little to do with being seen with a ts.

It has to do with being involved in illegal acts(like soliciting prostitution).

Now the guys that want a ts girlfriend....thats another matter.


suckseed Posted: Sun Nov 05, 2006 7:12 am Post subject:

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I'd totally agree with you, man, based on the escorting thing. I'm doing a really bad job of being clear I guess! I guess I don't think of the TS's here as being strictly escorts and pornstars...but I guess that is the majority...peggygee and I think harajuku being the exceptions that leap to mind. I'd presume many of the currently anonymous guys here would remain so strictly becuase of the sexuality thing regardless tho. Fair enough?



I don't have the foggiest of notions, as to what percentage of women that remain here work in the sex trade. I can not attest with any degree of certainty whether they are the majority.

I do believe that there are many women on here who read the posts, but don't reply for whatever reason.

However, suckseed as to your original question I personally do lose a degree of respect for those that spout things as gospel, and then neither will post their photos, nor truly have a great deal of experience with trans issues, beyond ogling pictures.

Specks post doesn't hold water either, for on transdating site, or sites where sex isn't being brought and sold, the men still hide behind faceless facades, and phony personas.

There was a recent survey where in fact the majority of males admitted that they have not had much experince with transwomen.
(How much EXPERIENCE do you have with transexuals,sexually and or otherwise)?
http://www.hungangels.com/board/viewtopic.php?t=7143&postdays=0&postorder=asc&start=0

That fact combined with profiles devoid of photos, causes me to not give much credence to their viewpoints.

In a nutshell, they want to 'talk the talk', but 'don't walk the walk'.

[TheOne1]

...a picture means a thousand words... but the fact still stands that the reason for posting comments, on message boards, or elsewhere on the internet, its about anonymity, visually and verbally, that's the reason for the computer, and why the preachers preach on here.... i do not see the preacher guys in the ts events, ts friendly bars, or ts organized clubs preaching about how they feel...even if they have a pic up or not, they are still behind a computer, they are still typing their little preaching message, using spellchecker, triple checking grammar....but the "majority" are probably married w/ kids, and this here is their fantasy land...its not like its likely we'll see a guy who posts his face pic up here in the store, and say, "i feel ya bro, keep up the preaching"...not likely................ end of preach. (spell check was used) :peanutbutter

[ARMANIXXX]

I'd be willing to bet those in favor of "conspicuity" don't have have wives AND kids.

[TheOne1]

...ok, delete the w/ children part :roll:

[Hara_Juku Tgirl]

In a nutshell, they want to 'talk the talk', but 'don't walk the walk'.

LOL..with a few exceptions :P..amen girlie! :lol: :wink:

~Kisses.

HTG

[whatsupwithat]

In a nutshell, they want to 'talk the talk', but 'don't walk the walk'.

I've been "walking the walk" since my early 20's.

The only problem I find with walking is finding someone to walk with. Damn near impossible.

I'd be lying if I didn't say that every time I post on here a little part of me hopes that that someone will come along.

:)

[Hara_Juku Tgirl]

I've been "walking the walk" since my early 20's.

Good for you whatsupwithat. :wink:


The only problem I find with walking is finding someone to walk with. Damn near impossible.

:)

I agree!

~Kisses.

HTG

[BeardedOne]

...using spellchecker, triple checking grammar...

:shock:

Well, that would be all two of them :lol:

I never use the spell check (Though I do occasionally edit a post where I find I have been particularly fumble-fingered). And as far as I'm concerned, 'grammar' is the li'l ol' lady with blue hair that comes to visit at Easter and $-mas and hands out quarters to the kids. :lol:



I'd be willing to bet those in favor of "conspicuity" don't have have wives AND kids.

ARMANIXXX, is "conspicuity" a real word? If not, it should be. I'm going to use it three times at work tomorrow. :D

Though never married, I've come close enough that I've heard the bullet say "Wheat!" more than once. I've been honest with all of them and they've all been in tune (To some degree) with who and what I am and who and "what" I am interested in.

With one of the above, I share a son, now 20, who is up to just about anything that is thrown at him. I'm reasonably sure that his mother and/or grandmother have painted me as being as gay as pink ink, but that doesn't seem to have harmed our relationship in any way. If he should discover (While I don't hide my interest in Ts, I also don't advertise it) that I enjoy the company of T-gurls (If he doesn't already know) I'm pretty sure he will do little more than shrug and ask to borrow the car.

I also have a goddaughter (We share as close a relationship as any blood parent/child) who sussed that I was into gurls with 'something extra' and that caused a bit of intense conversation (She was fifteen at the time). As she was already clearly aware that I had been in relationships with both men and women, this was just an extension of that. No big thing.

It is all, if you'll pardon the pun, relative. :)

Now, for you Spell Check fans:

I have a spelling checker, it came with my PC.
It clearly marks, for my review, mistakes I cannot sea.
I ran this poem threw it, I'm shore your pleased two no.
Its letter perfect, in it's weigh, my checker tolled me sew.

[mrironknee]

Count my votes for:

X Anonymity

X Spelling counts

I like my life. It wouldn't be the same, including work, home, wife, kids, etc. without the anonymity of my occasional tgirl encounters.
I would give up the tgirls before the rest.

[ARMANIXXX]

BeardedOne said,

ARMANIXXX, is "conspicuity" a real word? If not, it should be. I'm going to use it three times at work tomorrow. Very Happy

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[peggygee]

The most important qualities that I seek in my friends and loved ones is honesty and trustworthiness.

For me it is extremely important that I can rely on a persons ethics and integrity.

For as someone once told me: your word is the only thing you can give, and keep at the same time.

Men who would break the sanctity of their marriage, whether annoynmously or openly, should re-consider why they are still with a person that they would do that to.

If the marriage has lost it's meaning, if the couple finds that they are no longer in love, if they are staying together for the sake of the children, then this may not be the best reason to remain married.

If a married man approaches me in the hopes of starting a relationship, he will find that I have absolutely no interest in him as a mate, for if he will cheat on his wife then, assuredly at some point he will do the same with me.

My beliefs on this apply equally to their significant other as well, a committed relationship whether sanctioned by Law or the church, is a committed relationship.

For some people, sex is a mere physical act that can be engaged in by total strangers. Is that right or wrong, let's just say for me it doesn't work.

Do I require a man that is interested in me to go around telling all of his friends and family about my previous gender identity. No. And as post operative female who passes fairly well, and whose documents are in sync with who she has lived as fulltime for the past 30 years, I would prefer he didn't.

Having said that, I will never be anyones 'dirty little secret'. If a man feels the need to only meet in out of the way places, after having contrived some alternate identity. If a man feels the need to live that type of lifestyle, then he will be relegated to seeking the services of escorts.

Because, though I don't speak for all 'quality women', just most, that the married, the curious, the confused and the afraid, need not apply to be in our lives.

And even the escort, who provides a GFE will not want you in her life, for she realizes that you most likely won't be loyal to her.

So, play while you can, and hope the wife doesn't find out, the mistress, doesn't lose interest, or that the money runs out.

For sadly this is what happens to those
that play this game, they end up:
http://i92.photobucket.com/albums/l2/magi43/atrick4.jpg

[whatsupwithat]

Men who would break the sanctity of their marriage, whether annoynmously or openly, should re-consider why they are still with a person that they would do that to.

Amen. I have seen so much pain and suffering and disease spread around to the men, the girls, and the wives because of this very issue.

No disrespect to the married men who come here to "get off", but, really, why stay married if the relationship is one of such dishonesty where you must secret about to get your kicks?

This exactly why this scene is so f*cked up sometimes. Whether you know it or not, guys, you're sowing a path of destruction for all of us. It's why so many of the girls have become aloof, resentful, unable to trust, angry. Your dishonesty leads to suffering for all involved. Did you ever stop to think that the girls are human beings, with feelings and emotions?

Man, I have seen too many ts friends hurt because of this. Way too many.

Sorry, I'm preaching from a soapbox, but if there's one thing that pisses me off it's dishonesty and the pain it brings along with it.

Let me ask you a question, guys? Are you happy hiding like this?

[suckseed]

Speaking for myself, I've never cheated on anyone...and wouldn't. I was married in my twenties, and was dying to be with other women. I ended the marriage first. I won't get married again unless I'm as sure as possible that I won't want to stray...for someone with a conscience...that's a bad place to be...looking at the buffet and never getting to eat.

[ARMANIXXX]

Not married here.