Real Trans Relationship USA

[Jbird61]

I know this might be a stupid question but has anyone actually entertained a real relationship with a trans woman and been in a long one? I am having issues with the community stating it is stupid for men to chase a trans woman because she has a cock but I do not think some of them understand that is the beauty of their gender which attracts men like most of us. I have the chance to finally be with one but for one she is HIV positive and I am not but she was open about it and two I feel the tension of the typical social anxiety of the world in the USA but I won't let that stop me.

I am just curious how many really have had good lasting relationships and what challenges did you as a couple face?

[bimale69]

There’s nothing wrong with being in a good, loving long term relationship with a trans woman. Don’t let ignorant assholes tell you different. One challenge was acceptance by family, and friends. The biggest is the fact that my partner is from another country and the difficulty of at least getting her a fiancé visa, especially now that the current leadership that is hostile to lgbt and non-white immigrants. Also there is the factor of making sure she will be safe since she wants to come on the road with me, and I run all of the continental 48 states as an OTR driver. Luckily I drive for a company that is at least lgbt freindly for the time being, but with the recent spate of anti-transgender violence has us both very concerned.

[Lorca81]

I went back and forth between trans and cis women in my early 20's. But for the last 12 years have exclusively been with transwomen. That includes everything from hookups, to dates, to long term relationships lasting many years. The social anxiety associated with being a trans-attracted male is something you'll grow out of with time. Also, IME, if you're around long/regularly enough to build a solid connection for an LTR, and are confident enough to not care about people knowing your partner's trans status, most transwomen will understand you're genuine and not a chaser, because that's not how chasers operate.

[Lorca81]

Also, if you are genuinely interested in building a future with someone who is HIV+, don't let her status be a barrier. If you take PrEP and always use condoms, your chances getting of infection are virtually zero. Also, with medication, proper health care, etc., HIV entirely manageable and not the death sentence it once was, so there's no reason to believe that the women you're interested in won't live a full and complete life.

[Jackal]

Do you have health insurance? Ask your doctor about PREP and having a HIV positive girlfriend. If you really like this woman, do not end a chance at a relationship over HIV status.

[Jbird61]

I will be honest I am trying to look past the HIV part the most, I give it deep thought often but I just care about this woman a lot. I just can't help the fact that I am more attracted to trans women than cis women. I just battled for so long with not understanding that I love a woman's long hair, boobs and bodies but prefer to see a beautiful cock and balls on her instead of a vagina. I hate the world calls men like me and some of us chasers when a chaser is just a term for a man who can't accept the fact he like women with cocks and thinks it's a fetish. I mist overcome these things and not lie to myself anymore on my true attraction. This board sometimes is just flooded with pictures but not enough people talk about the struggles of today's man who loves trans women. I appreciate all of you that have posted in here it gives me hope. I just hate myself for being so weak with caring about what society thinks and not being strong enough to overcome this even though I know I must.

[Lorca81]

. . . I just hate myself for being so weak with caring about what society thinks and not being strong enough to overcome this even though I know I must.

If you've never been in a relationship with a transwomen before, these feelings are fairy normal. The thing that separates fetishists/chasers from normal guys who happen to be trans-attracted is the courage and ability to work past such fears. IME, if you are up front about your fears/concerns, but make it clear that you want to move past them, most transwomen are quite supportive. That is because they can empathize, having experienced something similar, first when the world perceived them as a hyper-feminine boy and then again when they transitioned.

[sockratees]

I know this might be a stupid question but has anyone actually entertained a real relationship with a trans woman and been in a long one? I am having issues with the community stating it is stupid for men to chase a trans woman because she has a cock but I do not think some of them understand that is the beauty of their gender which attracts men like most of us. I have the chance to finally be with one but for one she is HIV positive and I am not but she was open about it and two I feel the tension of the typical social anxiety of the world in the USA but I won't let that stop me.

I am just curious how many really have had good lasting relationships and what challenges did you as a couple face?

Tbh, fuck what society dictates. There are people of all colors and if there's someone out there willing to make it work with you then do it. I don't chase tgirls as I would cis girls simply because of the body dysphoria and I feel guilty as a human being, not because of what society does/says, chasing someone down for that. But of course there are all types of tgirls out there so it's possible to find someone who's okay with it.

[Jbird61]

Tbh, fuck what society dictates. There are people of all colors and if there's someone out there willing to make it work with you then do it. I don't chase tgirls as I would cis girls simply because of the body dysphoria and I feel guilty as a human being, not because of what society does/says, chasing someone down for that. But of course there are all types of tgirls out there so it's possible to find someone who's okay with it.

Well personally I think that the issue, I am more attracted to a trans woman with a penis than i am one with a vagina and to me i can't help that my brain finds that more attractive. I find cis women beautiful but when I see a beautiful trans woman with a pait of balls between her legs my attraction gravitates to them a lot more. I got tired of seeing escorts and hiding in the shadows. It got to the point with escorts I just wanted to watch TV with them during our time and just be around them because I enjoyed feeling normal with how I feel. I enjoyed kissing their beautiful face while holding their cock in my hand versus a vagina. It's all stupidly confusing at times but in the end I know their is nothing to be confused about because it is just my real attraction. In my head the confusion lies within why a cock and pair of hanging balls looks different to me than a mans but my brain visually sees a difference and only society claims their is not a difference.

[Laphroaig]

I knew there was a similar thread somewhere but took a while to dig it up. Jbird61, might be worth reading.

http://www.hungangels.com/vboard/showthread.php?103061-Met-a-women-she-has-HIV-would-you-date-a-women-with

[Jbird61]

I knew there was a similar thread somewhere but took a while to dig it up. Jbird61, might be worth reading.

http://www.hungangels.com/vboard/showthread.php?103061-Met-a-women-she-has-HIV-would-you-date-a-women-with


Very good find, thank you for the link. I am a very big novice when it come to PreP and HIV+ knowledge, I am clearly desperate to learn and I appreciate the help of this community and glad it's even here to help someone like myself. All of this is overwhelming sometimes but living in the shadows of my own personal attraction is also annoying. Drifting through trans hookers the rest of my life is not the way I want to live and I want to be an a real relationship with one and I have found one that I want to pursue but of course my own stupidity of social anxiety and HIV+ unawareness is slowing the progression of the relationship but it's starting to come to a head point. To make things worse I am in a relationship for 3 years with a Cis woman who found out my love for trans women which is something that is uncomfortable but also makes me happy because it forces me to come out.

[Niko166]

I know this might be a stupid question but has anyone actually entertained a real relationship with a trans woman and been in a long one? I am having issues with the community stating it is stupid for men to chase a trans woman because she has a cock but I do not think some of them understand that is the beauty of their gender which attracts men like most of us. I have the chance to finally be with one but for one she is HIV positive and I am not but she was open about it and two I feel the tension of the typical social anxiety of the world in the USA but I won't let that stop me.

I am just curious how many really have had good lasting relationships and what challenges did you as a couple face?


Honestly who gives a damn what people think anyway? I would most certainly date and have a LTR with someone who is trans, they are no different than anyone else, You like who you like and you are attracted to who you are attracted to. You only live once, you should consider your happiness over what anyone else thinks any day. My only issue is finding someone to be with, especially living in NJ and rarely going to NYC. Good luck with whatever you decide though dude

[Misterman1993]

I consider it many years ago. I used to chat with many transwomen and found them quite lovely. However, I live a very crazy kind of life. I'm not meant for that. Though I wish sometimes it could be different. That maybe my family wouldn't be so judgmental and that maybe I could have been more braver and not ashamed about my shortcomings.

[gaysian71]

There is nothing wrong with having a relationship with a trans woman. I have had a few and they were great. But Probably the best thing you will learn about dating a trans woman is that transgenderism is real. Trans women are women in every sense of the word except for what's between their legs. Other than that, there's really no difference between a trans woman and a cis woman.