Negative Sex Drive

[hondarobot]

Here comes another "shocking confession" . . . heh, not really, just finally coming to acceptence with something I've known for a long time and tried to fight against.

I don't enjoy having sex. I really dont. I just had another semi-relationship collapse last night because I just didn't want to fuck the girl. Again, this isn't some closeted gay guy deal or some nut job thing. I simply have never really enjoyed the act of fucking.

I love making out with girls, love porn, like watching other people fuck and enjoy that, I guess I'm just aesexual. I really dont think there's anything wrong with that. I'm like every girls nice, cool, gay friend, without being gay.

Anyhow, this is just something I needed to admit at some point. I think I'll be a bit happier now that I've gotten this out and come to terms with it.

I mean, I passed up this last night. No sex having enthusiast would do that, and I do it quite frequently:

[GrimFusion]

It's the same for me too, dude. For me, it's not that sex isn't fun or doesn't feel fantastic, I just don't have the time to run down women like other dude's do. I don't have the money to "hire in", and I'd rather be doing other shit then spitting game every time I'm around a chick with a nice face and rack.

Sex just isn't a big enough pay off for spending hours just trying to get a chick back to my place and in the mood. I'd rather just be mellow, throw back a few more drinks, and head back to my place alone.

[shemaleking]

thats something not normal what you said guys :)

[south ov da border]

I hear ya'll on that. for me it was never "fun" , not for lack of effort. I don't get too vocal, feels good, but I've don't think I know what "fun" is supposed to be. Makes girls wonder b/c I don't make a lotta noise. I don't think I make any really, but I gotta give some sounds. PLus sex gets old quick to me. Maybe I just haven't found the right person. Hmmm..Also the spending all that time and money thing isn't for me. If I get better employment, maybe. Anyone in L.A. Hiring?


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Had to try :)

[scorpion]

Is it so even whit a new partner? I can feel this way sometimes but then when I go to bed whit a person I have done it whit more than..lets say 10 times.Then it can boring mee or I can feel that the person have come to close into my person. Then I can feel uncomfortable.
There is no wrong whit monogam sexuallity. The best is to self decide who you locking at and fantasy about porn movies pics here on Internet..And the best you can shot you cum when it fits you :wink:
But I need to feel a person..I like it best.
Sometimes I could bee almost desperate, thats when i comes home after weeks, sometimes up to 10 weeks on the seas. Then I can almost die four it.
Maybee you should try that Honda? You could work whit mee in the machine-room :D

[RangeHova]

For me it ain't so much sex but meaningless cheap sex. Don't get me wrong, I have enjoyed some cheap sex but the older that i get the more after it is done I am left feeling like 'damn, I could have had a V8'.

I don't think I ever fully got off on the one night stand deal, even on the times in my past when I had them I would hope that they became more, many of them did become more. I ain't saying that I have to be in love or in a relationship but i do need a connection.

I recently have gone on a wait to have sex type of rule which women tend to appreaciate but they usuallu end up trying to get me to break the rule before I'm ready to. T-women have freaked out and wondered if something was behind the wait rule. But with all the chasers out there they have really appreaciated the lack of sexual pressure more than most women.

[hondarobot]

Is it so even whit a new partner? I can feel this way sometimes but then when I go to bed whit a person I have done it whit more than..lets say 10 times.Then it can boring mee or I can feel that the person have come to close into my person. Then I can feel uncomfortable.
There is no wrong whit monogam sexuallity. The best is to self decide who you locking at and fantasy about porn movies pics here on Internet..And the best you can shot you cum when it fits you :wink:
But I need to feel a person..I like it best.
Sometimes I could bee almost desperate, thats when i comes home after weeks, sometimes up to 10 weeks on the seas. Then I can almost die four it.
Maybee you should try that Honda? You could work whit mee in the machine-room :D

Whoa, hold on there Scorpion. You seem like a great guy, but I'm personally not into the manlove thing, as you have probably guessed.

And. . . "The Machine Room". . . Uh, not really sure I should even ask about that one.

:shock:

[hondarobot]

Oh, OK, now I get it. I should go out to sea or something, get away from things, and get really horny. Probably wouldn't work for me, to be honest.

I'd just find some place on the ship to get away from the crew and jack off a few times a day, anyways.

It's more the politics of casual sex that I'm not into anymore. The hooking up and all the stuff that goes with it, I've been sick of that since I was in my early twenties. Too much drama.

I'd rather be in a LTR, or just perpetually single.

[suckseed]

There may be several things going on here, Honda.
You're in an unknown stage of getting over or not getting over Vicki. You've conceived of a partnership with someone with whom you feel or felt a real connection, whether reciprocated or not. I've discussed this here in less charitable terms, but I respect the emotion.
I think you've said the girl pictured is a lot younger and a stripper. Maybe she doesn't stimulate you intellectually.
You've mentioned your use of alcohol here before; that can certainly be a factor on one's sex drive, as is smoking.
I believe you work in a club where fast and loose is the name of the game. Maybe it's burned you out; perfectly understandable.
Personally, the very idea that sex could kill me is a great big wet blanket. I haven't spent a single night with someone that I knew and cared for mutually in three years. Pretty sad. I've had one ts escort and one random hook-up with a woman off of craigslist who needed some lovin'. But, I've got a plan for changing my life. All I can change is myself. I'm older than you, and am at the point where my motivation to change is high. If there's anything you decide to change, you'll do it if it's important. If not...who knows. Just don't feel alone.

[hondarobot]

There may be several things going on here, Honda.
You're in an unknown stage of getting over or not getting over Vicki. You've conceived of a partnership with someone with whom you feel or felt a real connection, whether reciprocated or not. I've discussed this here in less charitable terms, but I respect the emotion.
I think you've said the girl pictured is a lot younger and a stripper. Maybe she doesn't stimulate you intellectually.
You've mentioned your use of alcohol here before; that can certainly be a factor on one's sex drive, as is smoking.
I believe you work in a club where fast and loose is the name of the game. Maybe it's burned you out; perfectly understandable.
Personally, the very idea that sex could kill me is a great big wet blanket. I haven't spent a single night with someone that I knew and cared for mutually in three years. Pretty sad. I've had one ts escort and one random hook-up with a woman off of craigslist who needed some lovin'. But, I've got a plan for changing my life. All I can change is myself. I'm older than you, and am at the point where my motivation to change is high. If there's anything you decide to change, you'll do it if it's important. If not...who knows. Just don't feel alone.

Interesting. You seem like a good guy and I hope you the best.

The first time I told her I was going to marry her some day, she got a "fire in her eyes" look, took a step back, and said "You gotta stop talking like that".

I'm going to keep talking like that.

I think we're made for each other, but if I'm wrong I'll just walk away. I really am a damn good guy, always will be. She knows that.

[suckseed]

Well, I don't mean to put 'gas on the fire' here. My only problem was if she's saying no and you won't listen. If she makes or has made things clear, you should respect that. If there's more going on than meets the public eye, that's another thing. I'd just encourage you to respect what she says. It's none of my business, of course.

[hondarobot]

It's none of your business.

8)

[suckseed]

Well, hopefully that wasn't intended to be taken in an unkind manner. Let me state, again, that real relationships don't take place on a public forum. That kind of opens the door to outsiders, no? :wink:

[Holycow]

Fact is, some people are "asexual", meaning they just aren't that thrilled about sex.
Its a smallish percentage of the population but there are thousands of men who are "asexual".
Sex just isn't such a big thrill to them. They might rather take it then leave it, but they can leave it.

[scorpion]

No maybee not its was a god idea honda. It was more like a joke about working whit mee in the machine.
Any way I go out again thursday morning so then you dont have to see mee here four a while again. :wink:
Live your life as it fit you. Thats important.