How to date TS Girls online without being viewed as a "chaser"

[formil]

Hi all im interested in having a long term relationship with a ts girl. However, the only effective way of doing seems to be through online dating, my question is how do i show the girls through my profile that im not your typical "chaser" and that im serious or how do i make my profile stand out from the usual "chaser".

[bluesoul]

the best way to go around this, is to state clearly in your profile that you're not a chaser. eg: i'm not a chaser.

you can also say this when you meet: "hello darling. btw: i'm not a chaser. so, wanna have dinner?" this works really well with ts girls because it lets them know you're not a chaser. also trying telling yourself your not a chaser. that helps too.

[KelliBlueEyes]

the best way to go around this, is to state clearly in your profile that you're not a chaser. Eg: I'm not a chaser.

You can also say this when you meet: "hello darling. Btw: I'm not a chaser. So, wanna have dinner?" this works really well with ts girls because it lets them know you're not a chaser. Also trying telling yourself your not a chaser. That helps too.

roflmfao

[formil]

no needs to be a douche about it i was asking for genuine advice because anytime a guy asks a question on dating ts girls they say why do you want to date a ts girl specifically you must be a chaser so i presumed that they would view any guys on a ts date site as chasers.

[flabbybody]

say in your profile you won’t try to suck cock til second date.

[bluesoul]

no needs to be a douche about it i was asking for genuine advice because anytime a guy asks a question on dating ts girls they say why do you want to date a ts girl specifically you must be a chaser so i presumed that they would view any guys on a ts date site as chasers.

i wasn't being a douche. just keeping it real.

btw: have you tried meeting ts girls just like you would anyone else? i mean, maybe overthinking things might not work. why not just keep it simple. be like "hey, i'm not a chaser, but i wanted to ask, would you like a coffee?" or something along those lines. you can improvise. ts girls love coffee btw so i'd go with that line

[KelliBlueEyes]

no needs to be a douche about it i was asking for genuine advice because anytime a guy asks a question on dating ts girls they say why do you want to date a ts girl specifically you must be a chaser so i presumed that they would view any guys on a ts date site as chasers.

Listen, dating TS girls is like dating any girl. Relax, be yourself, and try to be more concerned about what's between our ears than what's between our legs.

[dc_guy_75]

Mention how much you respect Trump, then immediately send an unsolicited dick pick.

Then ask them out for coffee, they all really like coffee.

[SanDiegoPervySage]

Don't call them "darling".

[tacocorpv2]

I would recommend not being a creep, just like in real life so online, don't talk about sexual stuff until she does first etc. ez :D

[ilove2swallow]

i think online trans dating is the least effective way. go to a trans club in your area. you know like how regular people go to clubs? you will be viewed as a chaser either way

[bluesoul]

I would recommend not being a creep

how do you do this? can saying "i'm not a creep" also help or are there specific steps to take to nullify this?

[KelliBlueEyes]

how do you do this? can saying "i'm not a creep" also help or are there specific steps to take to nullify this?

yes, dont ask any sexual questions or mention anything about dicks. dont send dick pics unless she asks you for one

[KelliBlueEyes]

i think online trans dating is the least effective way. go to a trans club in your area. you know like how regular people go to clubs? you will be viewed as a chaser either way

except most pretty trans girls i know go to straight clubs, unless their working. so going to trans clubs to find a gf is not a great strategy since its mostly cds and working girls going there in my experience.

online has worked the best for me in my normal dating life

[tacocorpv2]

how do you do this? can saying "i'm not a creep" also help or are there specific steps to take to nullify this?

Just like Kelly said, just be interested in her personality first and act normal as you would when trying to leave a good impression, that is, you don't have to say ''I'm not this or that'' (chaser/creep) but rather prove it to her with actions. Personally I haven't sent even ABS pictures unless asked to and have yet to be called chaser. That being said the last time I was on-line dating was some 2? years ago. But these things should still be the same more or less.

Anyways, good luck and I hope you do succeed thus making 2 persons happy.

[bluesoul]

yes, dont ask any sexual questions or mention anything about dicks. dont send dick pics unless she asks you for one

how about mentioning that you're a member of hungangels? do you think that would help or hurt your chances?

[lordworm]

Dont be a bottom boy.

Same rules for ggs apply to ts.

[SanDiegoPervySage]

how do you do this? can saying "i'm not a creep" also help or are there specific steps to take to nullify this?

If you know how to not be a creep around GGs, you know how to not be a creep around trans women.

[formil]

Yes Kelli that was rather my point with why i don't know many trans girls in my day to day life because ts women tend to be few and far between. Furthermore, if you go to a trans club you're more than likely going to end up with a working girl who only wants your cash. Hence i came to the conclusion that online dating would be the best strategy and thus i wanted advice on how to make my profile stand out from the chasers i'll be fine once i get passed the profile stage i was more worried about getting the initial response if that makes sense.

[Http]

Move to Thailand or any other country where the American victim-hood culture hasn't spread too...yet.

[kmersh]

I am afraid that pretty much if you are looking to SPECIFICALLY date a transgender female than you will be classified as a chaser as you are SPECIALLY dating them because they are transgender.

To be clear, that is in no way a criticism of you, your intentions maybe completely pure and you do not consider yourself a "chaser", obviously I have never met you so I have zero way of knowing one way or the other.

Essentially the prevailing thinking goes something like this, Transgender woman are woman, that the being transgender part is not what they want to be known as and thus want men to date them because they are woman, not transgender woman.

The transgender part is a physical process to get from A -> B so to speak, basically it is a process to align the physical with who the gender that they are mentally/emotionally/etc.

[kmersh]

I met my wife on-line, actually in some ways I still feel that on-line is not the best way to date, but be that as it may.

I did not set out looking for a transgender female, honestly while the porn can be interesting it was the fartherest thing from my mind in real life.

After a few dates, I met a wonderful woman and really hit it off, lots in common to talk about, just a really fun date, (a first for me a date being fun), things just felt right.

When I asked for a second date, she then told me that she was transgender and she needed to be sure that I was okay with it before she would agree to see me again. Honestly, I was a bit taken a back as I was not expecting that.

At first I wanted to say that I needed some time to think about it, but then I thought better of that, it was an amazing date with a woman, I did not know going in that she was transgender and that would not have changed our conversation, we have similar interests, etc., none of that changes simply because one is transgender.

Since then we have been together three years now, we are married and life is good, she is an amazing person and it took living with my Wife to understand that in a sense the trans part is a process, it is not what defines my wife or any transgender person, she is a female, no two ways about it.

[steviex00]

Listen, dating TS girls is like dating any girl. Relax, be yourself, and try to be more concerned about what's between our ears than what's between our legs.

How do you expect us poor guys to know you have something between your ears when we can only think with what's between our legs?
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[josehip]

I met my wife on-line, actually in some ways I still feel that on-line is not the best way to date, but be that as it may.

I did not set out looking for a transgender female, honestly while the porn can be interesting it was the fartherest thing from my mind in real life.

After a few dates, I met a wonderful woman and really hit it off, lots in common to talk about, just a really fun date, (a first for me a date being fun), things just felt right.

When I asked for a second date, she then told me that she was transgender and she needed to be sure that I was okay with it before she would agree to see me again. Honestly, I was a bit taken a back as I was not expecting that.

At first I wanted to say that I needed some time to think about it, but then I thought better of that, it was an amazing date with a woman, I did not know going in that she was transgender and that would not have changed our conversation, we have similar interests, etc., none of that changes simply because one is transgender.

Since then we have been together three years now, we are married and life is good, she is an amazing person and it took living with my Wife to understand that in a sense the trans part is a process, it is not what defines my wife or any transgender person, she is a female, no two ways about it.

I don't know you, But I am very happy for you. I wish I could find that kind of happiness.

[giovanni_hotel]

If you aren't a chaser, don't bother with what some TS chicks will call you.

Each transwoman is different, just do YOU.

As long as you don't treat a transchick as someone to be hidden or ashamed about, odds are things will work out in your favor, if it's to be.

[Tapatio]

When I asked for a second date, she then told me that she was transgender



You didn't know? Really, you didn't know?

You spent an entire date with her and didn't pick up on anything?

[Tapatio]

Hi all im interested in having a long term relationship with a ts girl. However, the only effective way of doing seems to be through online dating...

To be clear, you just want to meet someone online, not have a long term, internet-based relationship? Because the latter is definitely creepy, "I shot him because he hit on my imaginary girlfriend" type stuff.

[giadamn]

Everybody is a "chaser". You go after what you like and want. You don't call straight men women chasers, do you?

[LongTom101]

Just be like all the "cool people" on here who are "different", "sensitive" and "caring", who didnt join hungangels to get turned on by hot looking TSs with big beautiful dicks, they all joined because they're only interested in their minds, not what they look like or how much they're packing. You can tell this by looking at most of the threads which are all discussions about "personality" and don't have titles like "biggest TS dicks in the world to get bottomed by" or "hot TSs who can deepthroat 10"", or "Best TS face drenching facials after 5 man gangbang scenes".

What a bunch of bullshit, especially the smug, fake jerks making fun of you

Basically, like the "cool people" on here, pretend to have no interest in their dicks and pretend you're not that interested in fucking them or getting fucked. :bs::bs::bs:

That's what makes you "cool" and not a dreaded "chaser".

If everyone on here was honest with themselves and not a pretentious ass thinking that they're "special" and "different" they'd admit that they're all really just "chasers" at the end of the day.

[Aticus100]

You didn't know? Really, you didn't know?

You spent an entire date with her and didn't pick up on anything?

Not uncommon. I had two dates with my OH without having a clue.
Admittedly, now I can tell as I am aware of the signs but we will be out in town tonight with friends who will get hit on by straight guys with no clue.
It’s not uncommon at all

[Aticus100]

Just be like all the "cool people" on here who are "different", "sensitive" and "caring", who didnt join hungangels to get turned on by hot looking TSs with big beautiful dicks, they all joined because they're only interested in their minds, not what they look like or how much they're packing. You can tell this by looking at most of the threads which are all discussions about "personality" and don't have titles like "biggest TS dicks in the world to get bottomed by" or "hot TSs who can deepthroat 10"", or "Best TS face drenching facials after 5 man gangbang scenes".

What a bunch of bullshit, especially the smug, fake jerks making fun of you

Basically, like the "cool people" on here, pretend to have no interest in their dicks and pretend you're not that interested in fucking them or getting fucked. :bs::bs::bs:

That's what makes you "cool" and not a dreaded "chaser".

If everyone on here was honest with themselves and not a pretentious ass thinking that they're "special" and "different" they'd admit that they're all really just "chasers" at the end of the day.


There is of course the possibility that this forum has both people genuinely interested in trans people for who they and those obsessed purely with the sexual aspect. And those somewhere in between.
You sound a little like you may be tarring everyone not only with the same brush but with your own brush.
Myself, I’m not here for the porn or the big dicks but for the forum.

[LongTom101]

There is of course the possibility that this forum has both people genuinely interested in trans people for who they and those obsessed purely with the sexual aspect. And those somewhere in between.
You sound a little like you may be tarring everyone not only with the same brush but with your own brush.
Myself, I’m not here for the porn or the big dicks but for the forum.

Of course you are :dead:

[Aticus100]

Of course you are :dead:

I have no way of knowing the reason for your cynicism but I suspect it is born of your own experience. Maybe it’s not the same experience I have had. You could consider that before deciding everyone else is only on this site or interested in trans people for the porn and the big dicks.
My OH is trans as are most of our circle of friends. I don’t need to log into a forum to look at girls with dicks.

[kmersh]

You didn't know? Really, you didn't know?

You spent an entire date with her and didn't pick up on anything?

Funny you asked that, I have asked myself how that was possible and the only answer I can provide is that I was just having a great time and honestly was not looking that hard.

Three years on and there are some small signs, but that is three year down the road and I am looking at her every single day.

Honestly, from what I have learned there are tons of transgender folks out there who just blend in with society and unless one looked hard they would never notice, which is how most Transgender folks that I have talked with prefer it.

Prior to meeting my Wife I really only knew one other transgender person and that was a long long time ago, when I was a different person. My exposure to Transgender folks was Porn and it gave me an impression that was not exactly accurate. I give transgender folks in Porn credit, they are putting themselves out there as Transgender, something my wife would never and could never do, not that I blame her, life is tough enough without having to deal with discrimination to boot.

I also think that Porn actors and actresses are probably a bit if not a lot jaded, they are being paid to be looked at, essentially sex is their profession and see customers in one light, wanting sex, at least it seems that way from Porn actresses here, though I also could be entirely wrong too.

In part that is accurate, it is true you post on a bulletin board about Porn because you are interested in the topic, but that does not mean that you cannot have other sides that make up you as a person.

You can like transgender porn and even post about it, but it does not necessarily mean that in real life it is of the same interest level, at least in my case it isn't.

To me it is the same at strip clubs I know going in that the dancers are doing a job, in fact some may hate the job that they are doing and I have zero illusions that any of them would ever want to know me outside of the club.

They are employees, I am the customer and there is at least in my mind an implicit boundary that should not be crossed. Though, there are men who think that enough tips might entice one of the dancers to become their girlfriend, no matter how improbale it might be, fantasy becomes reality and that is where the issue sits imho.

[LongTom101]

I have no way of knowing the reason for your cynicism but I suspect it is born of your own experience. Maybe it’s not the same experience I have had. You could consider that before deciding everyone else is only on this site or interested in trans people for the porn and the big dicks.
My OH is trans as are most of our circle of friends. I don’t need to log into a forum to look at girls with dicks.

I really don't have a problem with you at all and my posts isn't particularly aimed at you, my real problem is with the often found on here name calling and finger pointing from hypocrites and pompous asses who've deluded themselves into believing that they for some reason occupy a 'higher moral ground' than everyone else, this being a typical example, "You're a 'chaser', I'm not, I'm 'special' and 'different', you're just like everybody else, unlike me."

While in reality, the pompous finger pointers shouting "chaser!" at every opportunity are probably more of a 'chaser' than anyone else. They just want to look good in front of any sexy trans people on here who, in their deluded belief system, might fuck them, impressed by their posts that clearly indicate their 'higher morality'.

They're just bullshit artists.

Most people are 'chasers', whether theyre chasing GGs, guys or trans people, whether they're straight, cis, bi, gay, whatever and whether theyre chasing sex, love or a combination of both. Just admit it. (not you, Aticus, the high n mighty finger pointers)

What I really want to say is to the op, 'Formil', so what, who gives a fuck what some idiot might call you, if they label you a 'chaser' fuck them, theyre not worth your time. Meet someone less triggered and less eager to stick a stupid label on you.

[MrFanti]

how about mentioning that you're a member of hungangels? do you think that would help or hurt your chances?

Why on earth would you bother to even mentioning this...or even better, how on earth would you bring it up in conversation?
It as absolutely nothing to do with who on inside (her likes/dislikes, perspectives on things in life, etc..) that she is.....

You should read Kelli's responses in this thread again....

[Aticus100]

I really don't have a problem with you at all and my posts isn't particularly aimed at you, my real problem is with the often found on here name calling and finger pointing from hypocrites and pompous asses who've deluded themselves into believing that they for some reason occupy a 'higher moral ground' than everyone else, this being a typical example, "You're a 'chaser', I'm not, I'm 'special' and 'different', you're just like everybody else, unlike me."

While in reality, the pompous finger pointers shouting "chaser!" at every opportunity are probably more of a 'chaser' than anyone else. They just want to look good in front of any sexy trans people on here who, in their deluded belief system, might fuck them, impressed by their posts that clearly indicate their 'higher morality'.

They're just bullshit artists.

Most people are 'chasers', whether theyre chasing GGs, guys or trans people, whether they're straight, cis, bi, gay, whatever and whether theyre chasing sex, love or a combination of both. Just admit it. (not you, Aticus, the high n mighty finger pointers)

What I really want to say is to the op, 'Formil', so what, who gives a fuck what some idiot might call you, if they label you a 'chaser' fuck them, theyre not worth your time. Meet someone less triggered and less eager to stick a stupid label on you.

Very well explained LongTom (not that owed me an explanation) but in this context your thoughts take on a very different perspective.

My apologies for the accusation of cynicism.

[formil]

To be clear, you just want to meet someone online, not have a long term, internet-based relationship? Because the latter is definitely creepy, "I shot him because he hit on my imaginary girlfriend" type stuff.

no i want a long term relationship but i meant initially meeting the girl through an online site and then plan a date. I don't want to mention any sites in case it's against the rules.

[formil]

They are women you wouldn't know they were trans unless it was extremely early in their transition process and even if that was the case you should still treat them as women.

[formil]

The thing is i am interested in a long term relationship if i wasn't interested in the persons personality or interests i wouldn't date them be that a cis woman or a trans woman.

[formil]

I agree with you to an extent and that would be my usual attitude in that of someone is not prepared to get to know me before making a judgement i would usually be like your not worth my time or effort anyway that doesn't include women who aren't interested in me because I'm not their type that's just part of life. However, the problem with taking this approach is that so many trans women get harassed by chasers and time wasters who are not interested in a long term relationship or don't want to be seen in public with them that's why they are so cautious of chasers i get it but that's not what i want which is why i'm trying to be more cautious to show I'm not the usual chaser.

[formil]

i understand its a process from A to B but following that sort of attitude means that the only people who are interested in a serious relationship are those who meet a trans women by chance which is not true at all.

[Paladin]

the best way to go around this, is to state clearly in your profile that you're not a chaser. eg: i'm not a chaser.

you can also say this when you meet: "hello darling. btw: i'm not a chaser. so, wanna have dinner?" this works really well with ts girls because it lets them know you're not a chaser. also trying telling yourself your not a chaser. that helps too.

In other words, keep on lying to yourself. :p

[Paladin]

You didn't know? Really, you didn't know?

You spent an entire date with her and didn't pick up on anything?

Yeah, I'm not buying it either

[Paladin]

Of course you are :dead:

And I only used to read the articles in Playboy...

[Paladin]

Sounds like some of you need a refresher on This topic:

http://www.hungangels.com/vboard/showthread.php?83314-The-Art-of-Chasing

[Devilboy]

The problem with your approach is that you’ve already objectified them before you ever meet them. Not much different than the “chaser” you’re worried about being... Really hard for a healthy LTR to start off that way. Usually you meet someone first TG or GG, y’all have a little chemistry, you get more serious, etc, etc, and poof you’re in a LTR.

Usually people want to be desired and loved for who they are...not what they are. Good luck.


...snip.... However, the problem with taking this approach is that so many trans women get harassed by chasers and time wasters who are not interested in a long term relationship or don't want to be seen in public with them that's why they are so cautious of chasers i get it but that's not what i want which is why i'm trying to be more cautious to show I'm not the usual chaser.

[whamm]

Of course you are :dead:

There is way too much free and cheap trans porn available for this to not be true. Personally, I visit only the forum on this site. I don’t even click through from the main site anymore.

[Aticus100]

I didn't know this was sub-site at first as i found it by searching Transgender Forum or something similar.

Without wishing to sound condescending, I do feel sorry for those that cant see past the porn aspect. Of course, if thats all you want from it, knock yourself out (pun intended) but to then insist that your own reasons for being into trans folk are the only valid reasons that exist and that all who disagree are kidding themselves, frankly, a bit sad.

[Aticus100]

Yeah, I'm not buying it either

So have you never met a Trans person who was convincing?

[formil]

i haven't objectified them ask any trans woman whos used online dating and they will tell you that they get constantly harassed by chasers. Furthermore, i have already stated i would never date a woman if i didn't love who they were or if there was no chemistry between us.

[big_sexy_55]

the best way to go around this, is to state clearly in your profile that you're not a chaser. eg: i'm not a chaser.

you can also say this when you meet: "hello darling. btw: i'm not a chaser. so, wanna have dinner?" this works really well with ts girls because it lets them know you're not a chaser. also trying telling yourself your not a chaser. that helps too.

I always laugh when I hear the term "tranny chaser" as if this term actually exists in the real world. And is somehow a negative. I went to Starbucks today...I just can't help myself, I'm a "coffee chaser" and that T Bone last night...yummy..."steak chaser" and that cute secretary at work..."sexy work girl chaser" lmao.

Sadly It seems to me, this term is coined by bitter ts girls unable to cope with the BAD life decisions THEY'VE made (prostitution, porn, drugs, horrible plastic surgery, etc) and need to point the finger/transfer the blame. Hence the term "tranny chaser" was born. Most of the tranny girls using this term...also have their rent paid by said "chasers" lol. But I digress...its always the "tranny chasers" fault. :violin:spam

[Paladin]

So have you never met a Trans person who was convincing?

Have I met VERY pretty tgirls - yes; been fooled - No.

[Ben in LA]

Sadly It seems to me, this term is coined by bitter ts girls unable to cope with the BAD life decisions THEY'VE made (prostitution, porn, drugs, horrible plastic surgery, etc) and need to point the finger/transfer the blame. Hence the term "tranny chaser" was born. Most of the tranny girls using this term...also have their rent paid by said "chasers" lol. But I digress...its always the "tranny chasers" fault.
Nailed it and this needs to be quoted as often as possible.

[Ben in LA]

Nailed it and this needs to be quoted as often as possible.
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[Aticus100]

Have I met VERY pretty tgirls - yes; been fooled - No.

I wonder if the way in which you consider not recognising a trans person as such as being “Fooled” by them your radar is always switched on.

I had no clue with my partner and that’s completely our general experience hence my surprise that some people disbelieve those who say they didn’t know.

[SanDiegoPervySage]

I didn't know this was sub-site at first as i found it by searching Transgender Forum or something similar.

Without wishing to sound condescending, I do feel sorry for those that cant see past the porn aspect. Of course, if thats all you want from it, knock yourself out (pun intended) but to then insist that your own reasons for being into trans folk are the only valid reasons that exist and that all who disagree are kidding themselves, frankly, a bit sad.

So the word "hung" as well as the animated banners and links to porn/escort sites on the side didn't give anything away?

[Aticus100]

So the word "hung" as well as the animated banners and links to porn/escort sites on the side didn't give anything away?

Clearly it did give it away which I said I didn't know it was a sub site at first.

[Aticus100]

So the word "hung" as well as the animated banners and links to porn/escort sites on the side didn't give anything away?

Upon reflection I actually think I first came to this after searching the name of an escort who has been reviewed here.

[holzz]

you approach them as WOMEN, since they are WOMEN.

don't mention porn.

don't ask them to fuck you, or you fuck them, on first messaging.

don't use words like tranny or shemale.

don't mention you see TS porn, or have fucked escorts.

just be natural, like you would be with a cis woman.

[holzz]

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looolol

absolute crap.

i think social stigma, prejudice, etc. cause many trans women to turn to escorting and/or the sex industry and porn. it's only JUST changing now. Thirty years ago, it was the case, but there are many trans women in "normal" jobs, due to more acceptance. there is no way there would have been trans newsreaders, broadcasters, sportspeople, etc. thirty years ago.

besides, who wants to be seen only as a sex object, or fetishised? As a trans-attracted man, you really need to do more research on the group you enjoy fucking and/or dating, given your presence here.

[formil]

I agree with your advice holzz but that was already stuff i kind of knew what i was trying to get advice on was setting up your profile to be stand out from the usual chasers obviously no rude pictures, talk about myself and my interests. But what else shows that you're different?

[big_sexy_55]

looolol

absolute crap.

i think social stigma, prejudice, etc. cause many trans women to turn to escorting and/or the sex industry and porn. it's only JUST changing now. Thirty years ago, it was the case, but there are many trans women in "normal" jobs, due to more acceptance. there is no way there would have been trans newsreaders, broadcasters, sportspeople, etc. thirty years ago.

besides, who wants to be seen only as a sex object, or fetishised? As a trans-attracted man, you really need to do more research on the group you enjoy fucking and/or dating, given your presence here.

Nope. ABSOLUTE truth. It's sad and pathetic, but still very true. I agree things are slowly changing yes...but for every ts actor or broadcaster there are 75 ts girls earning there living off (prostitution, porn, drugs, etc) off "tranny chasers" lol. You hate the dreaded chaser, but you'll still take his money!!!
:yayo:

[bluesoul]

I would recommend not being a creep


this is so vague. what does it even mean? what if someone is already a creep. then what? they should not be themselves? what if the girl is a creep, or likes creeps. what exactly is being a creep? was the night stalker a creep or were the detectives pursuing him creeps. or were both creeps? and how could they stop? well, we know the night stalker stopped, but did the detectives? or were the never creeps to begin with?

is being a creep actually that bad anyway? i know a couple of cats that use the word "creep" in their name and they do okay. i'd say- especially if you ain't a square or nothing, being a creep ain't so bad. i'm a creep myself

[bluesoul]

If you know how to not be a creep around GGs, you know how to not be a creep around trans women.

well, speaking on behalf of all creeps, let me just stay that we don't get our credit. if it wasn't for us, normal people wouldn't be normal. they'd be creeps :D

[bluesoul]

you approach them as WOMEN, since they are WOMEN.

don't mention porn.

don't ask them to fuck you, or you fuck them, on first messaging.

don't use words like tranny or shemale.

don't mention you see TS porn, or have fucked escorts.




you just described almost every member on this forum and put don't in front. you might as well have just said "don't be on hungangels"

[CoolAwesomeBXDude]

just be cool

[LongTom101]

you approach them as WOMEN, since they are WOMEN.

don't mention porn.

don't ask them to fuck you, or you fuck them, on first messaging.

don't use words like tranny or shemale.

don't mention you see TS porn, or have fucked escorts.

just be natural, like you would be with a cis woman.

don't display an avatar that depicts a butt ass naked trans person as a sex object in an obviously sexually suggestive and submissive pose, this would clearly indicate that you're a chaser

Oh wait.....what ???!

:dead:

[Paladin]

I wonder if the way in which you consider not recognising a trans person as such as being “Fooled” by them your radar is always switched on.

I had no clue with my partner and that’s completely our general experience hence my surprise that some people disbelieve those who say they didn’t know.

You had no clue, and you had two dates.

Stated by you earlier:

Not uncommon. I had two dates with my OH without having a clue.
Admittedly, now I can tell as I am aware of the signs but we will be out in town tonight with friends who will get hit on by straight guys with no clue.
It’s not uncommon at all



Did your date ever SPEAK???

[Aticus100]

You had no clue, and you had two dates.

Stated by you earlier:




Did your date ever SPEAK???

Yes, but as I didn’t think to ask “oh and by the way, you are female aren’t you?” The conversation didn’t give it away. She didn’t mention it at that juncture. I have no issue with that as she did mention it before anything became particularly physical and by that point I was hooked enough to just go with the flow.

Unless your referring to her voice in which case, no, couldn’t tell. (And I’m by no means naive or inexperienced) but she is unusually feminine.

[Laphroaig]

don't display an avatar that depicts a butt ass naked trans person as a sex object in an obviously sexually suggestive and submissive pose, this would clearly indicate that you're a chaser

Oh wait.....what ???!

:dead:

The hypocrisy is strong within Holzz, plus he's been called out for lying and being a twat on here many times before. Even spent time in the sin bin on a few occasions for it...:dead:

[holzz]

don't display an avatar that depicts a butt ass naked trans person as a sex object in an obviously sexually suggestive and submissive pose, this would clearly indicate that you're a chaser

Oh wait.....what ???!

:dead:

cos this is a porn-oriented site. are you saying that seeing porn alone is being a chaser?

[Paladin]

Yes, but as I didn’t think to ask “oh and by the way, you are female aren’t you?” The conversation didn’t give it away. She didn’t mention it at that juncture. I have no issue with that as she did mention it before anything became particularly physical and by that point I was hooked enough to just go with the flow.

Unless your referring to her voice in which case, no, couldn’t tell. (And I’m by no means naive or inexperienced) but she is unusually feminine.

I meant the latter. Its a nearly 100% revealer.

[Aticus100]

I meant the latter. Its a nearly 100% revealer.

Ok. Well no-one tends to pick up on it with my OH and some of our friends are the same. They are all South East Asian so this may have some bearing.

I’m used to people having no idea unless there is a reason for us to tell them.

[LongTom101]

cos this is a porn-oriented site. are you saying that seeing porn alone is being a chaser?

No I'm not saying that. I couldnt give a fuck who is or isnt a so called 'chaser' and that includes myself.

What I am saying is that you're a hypocrite and full of shit, exactly the type of person my posts alluded to, and you're so full of misplaced self righteousness that you could get gang raped by hilarious irony and all his cousins and wouldnt even notice.

[LongTom101]

The hypocrisy is strong within Holzz, plus he's been called out for lying and being a twat on here many times before. Even spent time in the sin bin on a few occasions for it...:dead:

Doesn't surprise me in the least.
Obviously a twat.

[KelliBlueEyes]

Nope. ABSOLUTE truth. It's sad and pathetic, but still very true. I agree things are slowly changing yes...but for every ts actor or broadcaster there are 75 ts girls earning there living off (prostitution, porn, drugs, etc) off "tranny chasers" lol. You hate the dreaded chaser, but you'll still take his money!!!
:yayo:

I love chasers, in moderation of course

[KelliBlueEyes]

Why on earth would you bother to even mentioning this...or even better, how on earth would you bring it up in conversation?
It as absolutely nothing to do with who on inside (her likes/dislikes, perspectives on things in life, etc..) that she is.....

You should read Kelli's responses in this thread again....

Oh Dear but you would not believe how often that happens to me with someone I've met FOR THE FIRST TIME in public. Him,"oh, so you're [trans/a shemale/etc], right?" Me,"yes, where's this going?" Him,"Well I have watched alot of [shemale] porn, and I've always wanted to date a [shemale]" Me,"keep looking, maybe you'll find someone."

Can you imagine how unbelievably annoying that is?

Look, I get it. I work as an escort and I don't sweat clients on terminology, or etiquette. I love my married and "discreet" Daddies. I enjoy having a good time with them, and I appreciate them.

But when it comes to my normal dating life (and I have been some guys first trans woman date) I expect to be treated just like any other woman. Every woman knows a man shows interest in her because on whatever level he's interested in getting into her pants, but we expect a bit more connection than that.

"Um, you still have your thing, right?" when sitting down together in a movie theater is unacceptable. I can cite other examples, but I'd prefer to forget them.

Online dating works for me, at least more often than whatever alternative, because you can say in your profile if you're pre/post/non op, top/bottom, etc, and guys can list their preferred role too. Personally, I don't date bottom or verse guys, but I have nothing against them, they'll find someone else that fits with them.

I know the OP was asking how to create an online dating profile, ok, post a face/body pic with a shirt on. If there is an option for you to select top/bottom/verse tell the truth. In communication with anyone you meet through the site in whichever venue do not mention sex, sex organs, and GOD FORBID do not send a photo of your junk, at least not until SHE brings it up first, and/or she asks you too.

[formil]

Oh Dear but you would not believe how often that happens to me with someone I've met FOR THE FIRST TIME in public. Him,"oh, so you're [trans/a shemale/etc], right?" Me,"yes, where's this going?" Him,"Well I have watched alot of [shemale] porn, and I've always wanted to date a [shemale]" Me,"keep looking, maybe you'll find someone."

Can you imagine how unbelievably annoying that is?

Look, I get it. I work as an escort and I don't sweat clients on terminology, or etiquette. I love my married and "discreet" Daddies. I enjoy having a good time with them, and I appreciate them.

But when it comes to my normal dating life (and I have been some guys first trans woman date) I expect to be treated just like any other woman. Every woman knows a man shows interest in her because on whatever level he's interested in getting into her pants, but we expect a bit more connection than that.

"Um, you still have your thing, right?" when sitting down together in a movie theater is unacceptable. I can cite other examples, but I'd prefer to forget them.

Online dating works for me, at least more often than whatever alternative, because you can say in your profile if you're pre/post/non op, top/bottom, etc, and guys can list their preferred role too. Personally, I don't date bottom or verse guys, but I have nothing against them, they'll find someone else that fits with them.

I know the OP was asking how to create an online dating profile, ok, post a face/body pic with a shirt on. If there is an option for you to select top/bottom/verse tell the truth. In communication with anyone you meet through the site in whichever venue do not mention sex, sex organs, and GOD FORBID do not send a photo of your junk, at least not until SHE brings it up first, and/or she asks you too.

See this is interesting because for me i would never have put my preferred role on my profile as again i would have presumed it would make a woman's alarm bells ring and that immediately they would view me as a chaser (obviously if the girl asked me i would tell her up front). I would have waited to tell the girl when things got more serious maybe that was a misjudgment? This was the sort of stuff I was interested in and I understand you posting the more obvious stuff earlier on in the thread because there are quite a few uneducated or ignorant guys out there who should benefit from reading that. I do understand how annoying that is as it objectifies you and undermines your whole transition.

[Tapatio]

I meant the latter. Its a nearly 100% revealer.

Elbows, sir. Elbows.

Though I guess there's always surgery...

[livepersona]

Online is a bit difficult I think because TS girls get bombarded with daily requests. You really need to stand out from the crowd. In-person is preferred if possible. I would say to have profile photos of you doing things you enjoy in life, surfing, swimming, biking, cooking, whatever it is you like to do. Basically you being happy in life to show them you're into more to life than chasing women at the bars. Also, have a good descriptive profile of yourself to show your personality.

Then if you get responses keep them casual and low-key. I wouldn't bring up sex at all until after you've met and had some chemistry.

[formil]

Online is a bit difficult I think because TS girls get bombarded with daily requests. You really need to stand out from the crowd. In-person is preferred if possible. I would say to have profile photos of you doing things you enjoy in life, surfing, swimming, biking, cooking, whatever it is you like to do. Basically you being happy in life to show them you're into more to life than chasing women at the bars. Also, have a good descriptive profile of yourself to show your personality.

Then if you get responses keep them casual and low-key. I wouldn't bring up sex at all until after you've met and had some chemistry.

I don't see how in person would be possible though that's why i thought online would be the best way. However, regarding the sex bit i would never mention sex in any relationship until i have gotten to know the person and we really get along.

[livepersona]

why, where do you live? And how to you eventually expect to meet them?

[formil]

why, where do you live? And how to you eventually expect to meet them?

Its not about where i live i live in London so technically it shouldn't be an issue. The issue is where to meet a ts girl because the only obvious places are more than likely going to be filled with working girls which I'm not interested in and also these places are basically going to be where the chasers hang around i would presume and i don't want to be associated with them. I initially hoped to communicate online letting the girl get to know me allowing me to show that I'm genuinely interested in her before meeting for a first date and seeing how things progress.

[KelliBlueEyes]

See this is interesting because for me i would never have put my preferred role on my profile as again i would have presumed it would make a woman's alarm bells ring and that immediately they would view me as a chaser (obviously if the girl asked me i would tell her up front). I would have waited to tell the girl when things got more serious maybe that was a misjudgment? This was the sort of stuff I was interested in and I understand you posting the more obvious stuff earlier on in the thread because there are quite a few uneducated or ignorant guys out there who should benefit from reading that. I do understand how annoying that is as it objectifies you and undermines your whole transition.

Well if you're bottom or verse girls want to know that up front because while some girls are top or verse many are bottom only in their personal dating life. There are girls who don't want you touching them there at all, and there are others that will let you touch or suck them even if they won't penetrate a guy. Personally, on a dating site if a guy is bottom or verse I don't date him, and if the girl you're interested in feels that way you're better off knowing up front.

Generally its the bottom guys who get called "chasers" not so much the total top guys.

In fact, bottom and verse guys get a pretty hard time on some dating sites, especially from the extremely dysphoric girls who don't want anyone touching their junk. They get some pretty rude responses, and get called more than "chasers" pretty frequently.

But, there are verse and total top girls out there, i can think of a few I know. So if that's your thing you just have to look harder for it. Some girls say bottom guys are more reliable, and that's why they'll date bottoms even if they don't prefer to be on top.

Let's face it, if you read the reviews on here you'll see, most trans escorts claim in their ads to be fully functional and top or verse (I don't top), few girls on hormones can perform reliably. Many cannot get or stay hard.

[smalltownguy]

Well if you're bottom or verse girls want to know that up front because while some girls are top or verse many are bottom only in their personal dating life. There are girls who don't want you touching them there at all, and there are others that will let you touch or suck them even if they won't penetrate a guy. Personally, on a dating site if a guy is bottom or verse I don't date him, and if the girl you're interested in feels that way you're better off knowing up front.

Generally its the bottom guys who get called "chasers" not so much the total top guys.

In fact, bottom and verse guys get a pretty hard time on some dating sites, especially from the extremely dysphoric girls who don't want anyone touching their junk. They get some pretty rude responses, and get called more than "chasers" pretty frequently.

But, there are verse and total top girls out there, i can think of a few I know. So if that's your thing you just have to look harder for it. Some girls say bottom guys are more reliable, and that's why they'll date bottoms even if they don't prefer to be on top.

Let's face it, if you read the reviews on here you'll see, most trans escorts claim in their ads to be fully functional and top or verse (I don't top), few girls on hormones can perform reliably. Many cannot get or stay hard.

I don't know why bottom guys get to be called chasers most of the time ?

[MrFanti]

BEST response in this thread!
And as a top male myself, I can personally relate to your comments about some of the dysphoric women not wanting to be touched at all - as they tell me, they want the "full experience" of being a woman to the extent that they ONLY want to experience orgasm through penetration...


Well if you're bottom or verse girls want to know that up front because while some girls are top or verse many are bottom only in their personal dating life. There are girls who don't want you touching them there at all, and there are others that will let you touch or suck them even if they won't penetrate a guy. Personally, on a dating site if a guy is bottom or verse I don't date him, and if the girl you're interested in feels that way you're better off knowing up front.

Generally its the bottom guys who get called "chasers" not so much the total top guys.

In fact, bottom and verse guys get a pretty hard time on some dating sites, especially from the extremely dysphoric girls who don't want anyone touching their junk. They get some pretty rude responses, and get called more than "chasers" pretty frequently.

But, there are verse and total top girls out there, i can think of a few I know. So if that's your thing you just have to look harder for it. Some girls say bottom guys are more reliable, and that's why they'll date bottoms even if they don't prefer to be on top.

Let's face it, if you read the reviews on here you'll see, most trans escorts claim in their ads to be fully functional and top or verse (I don't top), few girls on hormones can perform reliably. Many cannot get or stay hard.