Advice on confession to wife.

[kevmart87]

Many years ago I was a member here. One day I met a women, I fell in love and requested my account be deleted. I'm now married to that women. She is beautiful, loving and truly irreplaceable. Our sex life has been on the fritz for many years and lately my sex drive has ramp'd up a lot and I started confessing that I want our sex life to be better and more adventurous.

Simple right, Fuck your wife.

No so easy.

Many years ago (6ish) she discovered that I was into Tgirl porn. She was not happy to say the least and I down played it the best I could. She has always been cautious since then (I guess for good reason) and lately my sexual awaking is making her ask questions instead of being excited. She wants the full truth, but I am afraid to tell her as she already calls me a "closet" homo because I don't give her body enough attentions. I am ready to get in front of this, but I don't want to over speak and scare her off.

So this is the truth about my obsession. A warning to the transwomen in the forums, I'm sorry if I come across as some chaser, admirer and/or pig who objectifies Tgirls. I have never got to know a real Tgirl in person, so I apologized for making assumptions. To me you are women inside and out and not just some sex object. These are my deepest sexual desires and feelings on my attraction to Tgirls.

About 12 years ago in my early twenties, I stumbled into Tgirl porn and it blew my mind, since then I have exclusive masturbated to it. In fact I masturbate up to ten times a day on some occasions to Tgirls. There is something about a beautiful women with a hard-on. It seems so genuine to me, I can visibly see she is really turned on, its very exciting. Watching a Tgirl get penetrated by a man or have fellatio performed on her till the point of her ejaculation seems so real and unfakeable. I understand the feeling of having a hard on and the feeling of ejaculating and the though of making a beautiful Tgirl orgasm and ejaculate is absolutely amazing. I feel like it would be more rewarding then going down on a GG. I have read and been told that alot of Tgirls do not want or care for fellatio, but the though of bringing her to orgasm with proof (ejaculating in mouth) seems so empowering and sexy. I also feel a tgirl would better understand a mans penis and the male sex drive. Then there is the possibility of giving her a prostate orgasm and watching the result. There is just something about giving someone sexual pleasure that turns me on and well making someone cum especially a tgirl is like watching fireworks, it simply takes my breath away every time. This overly sexual, my apologies.

I love the idea of sex with a tgirl and do regret not trying it before I met my wife. I was never ok with the idea of an escort because of the legal and health risks. I wish I had the courage to find a nice tgirl and have had a fling with her. If I would of fell in love fine, I was looking for relationship back then anyways. I just didn't have the self confidence back then. Maybe my sexual fantasies are delusional but in my head and loins it just seems so right. The idea of a Tgirl is, is amazing and powerful and puts feelings in my chest that make me quiver.

Unfortunately, my wife while I do love to make love to her and go down on her can't fulfill the fantasy of a Tgirl. I have glamorized Tgirls and put them on a pedestal as the ultimate sexual partner. I feel my desires will never go away and I don't fear that, I only fear that one day I will die without experiencing the pleasures of a Tgirl.

I don't plan on cheating on my wife nor leaving her to experience what I am so obviously obsessed with. I do want to fix our sex life and make her happy. I am willing to come out about this, I am scared and obviously I can not confess how deeply turned on I am by Tgirls as it will make her feel inadequate. Currently I'm starting a No Fap reboot (no porn or masturbation) to try and learn to suppress my desires. I'm not sure what the result of coming clean will produces but if she truly loves me then maybe she will accept it. She may however be crushed and not accept it and put us through a very expensive and painful divorce. Either way she wants to know the truth. Also my wife admits to being Bi but her attitude about men being Bi is rather negative and while I'm ready to admit my attracting to pre-op transsexuals, she will probably consider me a homosexual. I have never been turned on by another man, masculine nor effeminate. The male body just doesn't turn me on. Convince her of that will prove to be a challenge if I tell her I want to perform fellatio on a tgirl.


Any advice or incite will be greatly appreciated.

[pariahsan]

Unless you tell your wife the truth, you will live a life of lies.

[blackchubby38]

I say tell her the truth and see what happens next. Tell her exactly how you feel like you did in your post. After that, I think you have only one option.

If an open marriage or polyamorous relationship is off the table, then I think you have to file for a divorce. As painful and as expensive it maybe.

While you may say that you don't plan on cheating on her, she is always going to wonder what you're up to if you don't come home at a certain time. No relationship can possibly survive if the people in it don't trust each other.

On the flip side, our passions sometimes get the best of us. So lets say one day you do give in to them and wind up cheating on her. That's going to make the situation even worse if she finds out about it.

[nysprod]

Your marriage sounds like a disaster...no sex and she thinks you're a homo anyway...do the right thing and get a lawyer.

And don't confess anything, you'll end up paying even more.

[deepfix]

I am not married so take my advice for what it's worth. But I agree with "nysprod". The problem isn't the desires or fantasies in your head. The problem is with your wife and her mistrust of you. Get ahead of the sitch and get a lawyer. This isn't minority report. You can't confess to something you haven't done.

[gaton]

Is telling the truth supposed to make her feel better by understanding you or make you feel better by not feeling guilty? It sounds like you want to tell her to make yourself feel better, which sounds like a bad reason to do it. Lying is underrated. No one is hurt by lying except maybe for yourself. And that is partially what a relationship is about. doing what is best for your partner even at a cost to yourself.

If you can't stand lying then maybe buy a strap on for her? see what she says?

[runningdownthatdream]

Many years ago I was a member here. One day I met a women, I fell in love and requested my account be deleted. I'm now married to that women. She is beautiful, loving and truly irreplaceable. Our sex life has been on the fritz for many years and lately my sex drive has ramp'd up a lot and I started confessing that I want our sex life to be better and more adventurous.

Simple right, Fuck your wife.

No so easy.

Many years ago (6ish) she discovered that I was into Tgirl porn. She was not happy to say the least and I down played it the best I could. She has always been cautious since then (I guess for good reason) and lately my sexual awaking is making her ask questions instead of being excited. She wants the full truth, but I am afraid to tell her as she already calls me a "closet" homo because I don't give her body enough attentions. I am ready to get in front of this, but I don't want to over speak and scare her off.

So this is the truth about my obsession. A warning to the transwomen in the forums, I'm sorry if I come across as some chaser, admirer and/or pig who objectifies Tgirls. I have never got to know a real Tgirl in person, so I apologized for making assumptions. To me you are women inside and out and not just some sex object. These are my deepest sexual desires and feelings on my attraction to Tgirls.

About 12 years ago in my early twenties, I stumbled into Tgirl porn and it blew my mind, since then I have exclusive masturbated to it. In fact I masturbate up to ten times a day on some occasions to Tgirls. There is something about a beautiful women with a hard-on. It seems so genuine to me, I can visibly see she is really turned on, its very exciting. Watching a Tgirl get penetrated by a man or have fellatio performed on her till the point of her ejaculation seems so real and unfakeable. I understand the feeling of having a hard on and the feeling of ejaculating and the though of making a beautiful Tgirl orgasm and ejaculate is absolutely amazing. I feel like it would be more rewarding then going down on a GG. I have read and been told that alot of Tgirls do not want or care for fellatio, but the though of bringing her to orgasm with proof (ejaculating in mouth) seems so empowering and sexy. I also feel a tgirl would better understand a mans penis and the male sex drive. Then there is the possibility of giving her a prostate orgasm and watching the result. There is just something about giving someone sexual pleasure that turns me on and well making someone cum especially a tgirl is like watching fireworks, it simply takes my breath away every time. This overly sexual, my apologies.

I love the idea of sex with a tgirl and do regret not trying it before I met my wife. I was never ok with the idea of an escort because of the legal and health risks. I wish I had the courage to find a nice tgirl and have had a fling with her. If I would of fell in love fine, I was looking for relationship back then anyways. I just didn't have the self confidence back then. Maybe my sexual fantasies are delusional but in my head and loins it just seems so right. The idea of a Tgirl is, is amazing and powerful and puts feelings in my chest that make me quiver.

Unfortunately, my wife while I do love to make love to her and go down on her can't fulfill the fantasy of a Tgirl. I have glamorized Tgirls and put them on a pedestal as the ultimate sexual partner. I feel my desires will never go away and I don't fear that, I only fear that one day I will die without experiencing the pleasures of a Tgirl.

I don't plan on cheating on my wife nor leaving her to experience what I am so obviously obsessed with. I do want to fix our sex life and make her happy. I am willing to come out about this, I am scared and obviously I can not confess how deeply turned on I am by Tgirls as it will make her feel inadequate. Currently I'm starting a No Fap reboot (no porn or masturbation) to try and learn to suppress my desires. I'm not sure what the result of coming clean will produces but if she truly loves me then maybe she will accept it. She may however be crushed and not accept it and put us through a very expensive and painful divorce. Either way she wants to know the truth. Also my wife admits to being Bi but her attitude about men being Bi is rather negative and while I'm ready to admit my attracting to pre-op transsexuals, she will probably consider me a homosexual. I have never been turned on by another man, masculine nor effeminate. The male body just doesn't turn me on. Convince her of that will prove to be a challenge if I tell her I want to perform fellatio on a tgirl.


Any advice or incite will be greatly appreciated.

Life isn't that difficult. Do what you want. Fuck a tgirl or fuck your wife. Either way you need a divorce.

[kevmart87]

Your marriage sounds like a disaster...no sex and she thinks you're a homo anyway...do the right thing and get a lawyer.

And don't confess anything, you'll end up paying even more.

While she has questioned my sexuality it was never in a nasty way, I think she is teasing me most of the time but his is also concerned about the little bit she knows. The no sex issue is me, I am truly obsessed with transsexuals and it drives me to masterbate so much that I have a very low libido.

I do love my wife, she is faithful and a military spouse who enjoys the lifestyle and can handle deployments. She is also a very gorgeous women who takes good care of me. We are both a catch in each other's eyes. She has always been a little jealous and a afraid to loose me, maybe she's alittle crazy but who isn't. I don't have much room to speak. We have built a life together and my wife wants to have my baby.

She is not the aggressor in bed, she wants me to seduce her and my confidence in the bedroom with her embarrassingly is not great. I just want to make her orgasm and I'm never sure if I did, My mistrust in GG women's truth about if they had an orgasm is a major reason I'm attracted to transsexuals. My deepest sexual pleasure Is getting my partner off.

[kevmart87]

Is telling the truth supposed to make her feel better by understanding you or make you feel better by not feeling guilty? It sounds like you want to tell her to make yourself feel better, which sounds like a bad reason to do it. Lying is underrated. No one is hurt by lying except maybe for yourself. And that is partially what a relationship is about. doing what is best for your partner even at a cost to yourself.

If you can't stand lying then maybe buy a strap on for her? see what she says?

I would hope it frees the both of us, but I'd im imagine I'll be the one sleeping better at night.
I could down play it again, as she wants to talk about what she found many years ago. It was just porn related and a ts dating site account email from before I met her. I do want to confess, I figure if she knows my deepest desires then she can't question me and we will be completely open. I can't keep lying to her, she knows already. She jokes about it sometimes saying that I'd like something extra, I just shy up and denie it.

As for the strap on, what good will that be? I have no desire to be penitrated.

[kevmart87]

I say tell her the truth and see what happens next. Tell her exactly how you feel like you did in your post. After that, I think you have only one option.

If an open marriage or polyamorous relationship is off the table, then I think you have to file for a divorce. As painful and as expensive it maybe.

While you may say that you don't plan on cheating on her, she is always going to wonder what you're up to if you don't come home at a certain time. No relationship can possibly survive if the people in it don't trust each other.

On the flip side, our passions sometimes get the best of us. So lets say one day you do give in to them and wind up cheating on her. That's going to make the situation even worse if she finds out about it.

Your right, If I fully open up then she will wonder forever and always question our relationship.

She has offered to open our relationship up and let us see other people. I don't feel that's a good idea. For one, If she was having sex with another guy it would bother me. What if I did sleep with a Tgirl, maybe id be satisfied and move on, but what if realized that this is what I want and now I just want to be with a Tgirl. What if I fall in love or she does?

It's a slippery slope having an open relationship.

Now we have joked about a threesome, but I of course wanted another women in bed and she a man. I always though with her being Bi and me being into Tgirls would not a Tgirl threesome with my wife just make sense? I just couldn't see my wife enjoy watch me give a Tgirl fellatio or stroke her during sex. I'd be to embarrassed in front of my wife to let go and make love to the tgirl. Even if I did let go, I'd fear my get jellious about how excited and turned on I might get.

I don't know, an open relationship seems complicated and risky. As of right now I have done nothing wrong but have deep desires about Tgirls. Thats not illegal.

[KelliBlueEyes]

I would hope it frees the both of us, but I'd im imagine I'll be the one sleeping better at night.
I could down play it again, as she wants to talk about what she found many years ago. It was just porn related and a ts dating site account email from before I met her. I do want to confess, I figure if she knows my deepest desires then she can't question me and we will be completely open. I can't keep lying to her, she knows already. She jokes about it sometimes saying that I'd like something extra, I just shy up and denie it.

As for the strap on, what good will that be? I have no desire to be penitrated.


It is only polite to tell the truth where the person whom you are revealing something to will not be hurt by it. It will do you no good to clear your own conscience at the expense of someone else's feelings.

[gcgc40]

Many years ago I was a member here. One day I met a women, I fell in love and requested my account be deleted. I'm now married to that women. She is beautiful, loving and truly irreplaceable. Our sex life has been on the fritz for many years and lately my sex drive has ramp'd up a lot and I started confessing that I want our sex life to be better and more adventurous.

Simple right, Fuck your wife.

No so easy.

Many years ago (6ish) she discovered that I was into Tgirl porn. She was not happy to say the least and I down played it the best I could. She has always been cautious since then (I guess for good reason) and lately my sexual awaking is making her ask questions instead of being excited. She wants the full truth, but I am afraid to tell her as she already calls me a "closet" homo because I don't give her body enough attentions. I am ready to get in front of this, but I don't want to over speak and scare her off.

So this is the truth about my obsession. A warning to the transwomen in the forums, I'm sorry if I come across as some chaser, admirer and/or pig who objectifies Tgirls. I have never got to know a real Tgirl in person, so I apologized for making assumptions. To me you are women inside and out and not just some sex object. These are my deepest sexual desires and feelings on my attraction to Tgirls.

About 12 years ago in my early twenties, I stumbled into Tgirl porn and it blew my mind, since then I have exclusive masturbated to it. In fact I masturbate up to ten times a day on some occasions to Tgirls. There is something about a beautiful women with a hard-on. It seems so genuine to me, I can visibly see she is really turned on, its very exciting. Watching a Tgirl get penetrated by a man or have fellatio performed on her till the point of her ejaculation seems so real and unfakeable. I understand the feeling of having a hard on and the feeling of ejaculating and the though of making a beautiful Tgirl orgasm and ejaculate is absolutely amazing. I feel like it would be more rewarding then going down on a GG. I have read and been told that alot of Tgirls do not want or care for fellatio, but the though of bringing her to orgasm with proof (ejaculating in mouth) seems so empowering and sexy. I also feel a tgirl would better understand a mans penis and the male sex drive. Then there is the possibility of giving her a prostate orgasm and watching the result. There is just something about giving someone sexual pleasure that turns me on and well making someone cum especially a tgirl is like watching fireworks, it simply takes my breath away every time. This overly sexual, my apologies.

I love the idea of sex with a tgirl and do regret not trying it before I met my wife. I was never ok with the idea of an escort because of the legal and health risks. I wish I had the courage to find a nice tgirl and have had a fling with her. If I would of fell in love fine, I was looking for relationship back then anyways. I just didn't have the self confidence back then. Maybe my sexual fantasies are delusional but in my head and loins it just seems so right. The idea of a Tgirl is, is amazing and powerful and puts feelings in my chest that make me quiver.

Unfortunately, my wife while I do love to make love to her and go down on her can't fulfill the fantasy of a Tgirl. I have glamorized Tgirls and put them on a pedestal as the ultimate sexual partner. I feel my desires will never go away and I don't fear that, I only fear that one day I will die without experiencing the pleasures of a Tgirl.

I don't plan on cheating on my wife nor leaving her to experience what I am so obviously obsessed with. I do want to fix our sex life and make her happy. I am willing to come out about this, I am scared and obviously I can not confess how deeply turned on I am by Tgirls as it will make her feel inadequate. Currently I'm starting a No Fap reboot (no porn or masturbation) to try and learn to suppress my desires. I'm not sure what the result of coming clean will produces but if she truly loves me then maybe she will accept it. She may however be crushed and not accept it and put us through a very expensive and painful divorce. Either way she wants to know the truth. Also my wife admits to being Bi but her attitude about men being Bi is rather negative and while I'm ready to admit my attracting to pre-op transsexuals, she will probably consider me a homosexual. I have never been turned on by another man, masculine nor effeminate. The male body just doesn't turn me on. Convince her of that will prove to be a challenge if I tell her I want to perform fellatio on a tgirl.


Any advice or incite will be greatly appreciated.


Hey

I'm also a bi-curious married female like your wife. I love to dominate my hubby sexually and have fucked him with a strapon for years! I eventually admitted my fantasy of some M/F/T fun! anyway long story short it was the best sexual experience we have had and it has only made our already amazing sex life better!
Check out my review!
If you are going to confess i would suggest maybe not admitting to the extreme masturbation to Ts porn if you have been neglecting your wife's needs! Imagine how you would feel if your wife would rather masturbate to lesbian porn...
Pegging is so much fun too, maybe you could introduce that?
Rather than putting a negative spin on it turn it into how you want to include her in your fantasies, maybe indulge her fantasies, the get the spark back!
also have you searched the forum/google for other couples who play together?
Hope this helps.

[kevmart87]

It is only polite to tell the truth where the person whom you are revealing something to will not be hurt by it. It will do you no good to clear your own conscience at the expense of someone else's feelings.

How do I know if I'll hurt her? How can I be honest and not at the same time. This isn't some porn phase for me, I have spent 12 years of my adult life utterly fascinated and attracted to Tgirls. I just want her accept it and not be questioning me when I want to get wired.

[kevmart87]

Hey

I'm also a bi-curious married female like your wife. I love to dominate my hubby sexually and have fucked him with a strapon for years! I eventually admitted my fantasy of some M/F/T fun! anyway long story short it was the best sexual experience we have had and it has only made our already amazing sex life better!
Check out my review!
If you are going to confess i would suggest maybe not admitting to the extreme masturbation to Ts porn if you have been neglecting your wife's needs! Imagine how you would feel if your wife would rather masturbate to lesbian porn...
Pegging is so much fun too, maybe you could introduce that?
Rather than putting a negative spin on it turn it into how you want to include her in your fantasies, maybe indulge her fantasies, the get the spark back!
also have you searched the forum/google for other couples who play together?
Hope this helps.

While I'd love for us to be completely open, she has made it known that we need to get back to the basics.

It would be great if she got a girlfriend, I'd be cool if she wanted to explore her bi side. I'd accept that.

[nysprod]

While she has questioned my sexuality it was never in a nasty way, I think she is teasing me most of the time but his is also concerned about the little bit she knows. The no sex issue is me, I am truly obsessed with transsexuals and it drives me to masterbate so much that I have a very low libido.

I do love my wife, she is faithful and a military spouse who enjoys the lifestyle and can handle deployments. She is also a very gorgeous women who takes good care of me. We are both a catch in each other's eyes. She has always been a little jealous and a afraid to loose me, maybe she's alittle crazy but who isn't. I don't have much room to speak. We have built a life together and my wife wants to have my baby.

She is not the aggressor in bed, she wants me to seduce her and my confidence in the bedroom with her embarrassingly is not great. I just want to make her orgasm and I'm never sure if I did, My mistrust in GG women's truth about if they had an orgasm is a major reason I'm attracted to transsexuals. My deepest sexual pleasure Is getting my partner off.

Ok look, this obviously indicates you need professional help, which is beyond the scope of this forum. I wouldn't listen to what anyone says here beyond urging you to get help with your issues.

[kevmart87]

Ok look, this obviously indicates you need professional help, which is beyond the scope of this forum. I wouldn't listen to what anyone says here beyond urging you to get help with your issues.

Thanks for the suggestion, my wife doesn't believe in counseling. She don't believe in airing the dirty laundry. This issue needs to be a resolved between my wife and I. Divorce is the easy way out, we haven't even tired to resolve this like adults. While I love my wife and GG, TS will always be special to me.

I'm am being selfish about my desires and figured this forum was a shot in the dark. I was hoping others here would of shared similar situations and understand the passionate desires I feel.

Thanks for the support.

[lifeisfiction]

Don't be afraid of counseling, if you both want to see if this marriage is worth something then you both have to want to grow in it. Divorce is not an easy out and there is no easy decision you will make. Something has happen and you need to find the heart of it. Don't assume and don't let the seed of doubt destroy what you have. It's better do something of have regret follow you for a long time. Call and talk to a counselor. This forum won't provide what you need.

[kevmart87]

Here is the deal. In the not to distant future I will come home to my wife. We will make love and rekindle our love. I've been sexting her a lot because I miss her and want to sexual satisfy her needs as well as mine.

She told me what she found (tgirl stuff) bothers her and because I lover her and was feeling brave when she said that, I told her I'd be happy to discuess it with her. I'm a man of integrity and if she wants the truth then she deserves it.

Does this mean she will openly accept my attraction to Twomen? Who knows, maybe she will buy me a Tgirl escort to get it out of my system. Possible yes, realistic? LOL

So my plan of action:

1) Come home and get back into full swing of being a husband.

2) When the time is right or she asks, tell her I am attracted to GG and Tgirl and that she shouldn't feel anyless able to please me.

3) Hope she's ok with it.

4) Realizes that I'm a bit of a freak and out sex lifes gets a jumpstart.

The only thing that I truly fear is not her being concerned that her hubbies biggest fantasy is a Tgirl, but that I in away have not be honest with her for years.

[Vladimir Putin]

I would not tell her the truth. She'll use your honesty against you should she file for divorce. In this day and age, honesty doesn't pay.

[diddyboponTOP]

Many years ago I was a member here. One day I met a women, I fell in love and requested my account be deleted. I'm now married to that women. She is beautiful, loving and truly irreplaceable. Our sex life has been on the fritz for many years and lately my sex drive has ramp'd up a lot and I started confessing that I want our sex life to be better and more adventurous.

Simple right, Fuck your wife.

No so easy.

Many years ago (6ish) she discovered that I was into Tgirl porn. She was not happy to say the least and I down played it the best I could. She has always been cautious since then (I guess for good reason) and lately my sexual awaking is making her ask questions instead of being excited. She wants the full truth, but I am afraid to tell her as she already calls me a "closet" homo because I don't give her body enough attentions. I am ready to get in front of this, but I don't want to over speak and scare her off.

So this is the truth about my obsession. A warning to the transwomen in the forums, I'm sorry if I come across as some chaser, admirer and/or pig who objectifies Tgirls. I have never got to know a real Tgirl in person, so I apologized for making assumptions. To me you are women inside and out and not just some sex object. These are my deepest sexual desires and feelings on my attraction to Tgirls.

About 12 years ago in my early twenties, I stumbled into Tgirl porn and it blew my mind, since then I have exclusive masturbated to it. In fact I masturbate up to ten times a day on some occasions to Tgirls. There is something about a beautiful women with a hard-on. It seems so genuine to me, I can visibly see she is really turned on, its very exciting. Watching a Tgirl get penetrated by a man or have fellatio performed on her till the point of her ejaculation seems so real and unfakeable. I understand the feeling of having a hard on and the feeling of ejaculating and the though of making a beautiful Tgirl orgasm and ejaculate is absolutely amazing. I feel like it would be more rewarding then going down on a GG. I have read and been told that alot of Tgirls do not want or care for fellatio, but the though of bringing her to orgasm with proof (ejaculating in mouth) seems so empowering and sexy. I also feel a tgirl would better understand a mans penis and the male sex drive. Then there is the possibility of giving her a prostate orgasm and watching the result. There is just something about giving someone sexual pleasure that turns me on and well making someone cum especially a tgirl is like watching fireworks, it simply takes my breath away every time. This overly sexual, my apologies.

I love the idea of sex with a tgirl and do regret not trying it before I met my wife. I was never ok with the idea of an escort because of the legal and health risks. I wish I had the courage to find a nice tgirl and have had a fling with her. If I would of fell in love fine, I was looking for relationship back then anyways. I just didn't have the self confidence back then. Maybe my sexual fantasies are delusional but in my head and loins it just seems so right. The idea of a Tgirl is, is amazing and powerful and puts feelings in my chest that make me quiver.

Unfortunately, my wife while I do love to make love to her and go down on her can't fulfill the fantasy of a Tgirl. I have glamorized Tgirls and put them on a pedestal as the ultimate sexual partner. I feel my desires will never go away and I don't fear that, I only fear that one day I will die without experiencing the pleasures of a Tgirl.

I don't plan on cheating on my wife nor leaving her to experience what I am so obviously obsessed with. I do want to fix our sex life and make her happy. I am willing to come out about this, I am scared and obviously I can not confess how deeply turned on I am by Tgirls as it will make her feel inadequate. Currently I'm starting a No Fap reboot (no porn or masturbation) to try and learn to suppress my desires. I'm not sure what the result of coming clean will produces but if she truly loves me then maybe she will accept it. She may however be crushed and not accept it and put us through a very expensive and painful divorce. Either way she wants to know the truth. Also my wife admits to being Bi but her attitude about men being Bi is rather negative and while I'm ready to admit my attracting to pre-op transsexuals, she will probably consider me a homosexual. I have never been turned on by another man, masculine nor effeminate. The male body just doesn't turn me on. Convince her of that will prove to be a challenge if I tell her I want to perform fellatio on a tgirl.


Any advice or incite will be greatly appreciated.

Dont Hold them to high up, you can buy 90% of them for a few bucks, they can be huge pain in the asses and often have drug and other issues.

[nysprod]

Thanks for the suggestion, my wife doesn't believe in counseling.

I wasn't suggesting it's your wife who needs counseling

[kevmart87]

Dont Hold them to high up, you can buy 90% of them for a few bucks, they can be huge pain in the asses and often have drug and other issues.

This isn't news to me. I knew that eight years ago when I considered pursuing my attractions. I didn't want to pay for it not because I'm above it, but I just wanted to have sex with a Tgirl who genuinely wanted to have sex with me. Back in 2009 (maybe even today) dating and tsdating sites were full of dudes in wigs or if they looked good they were escorts. I knew id be disappointed.

I'm probably one of many men here who has at one point considered pursuing a Tgirl. I know there is a lot of bad mouthing when it comes to dating a TS which is sad, these are beautiful women who deserve to be loved. If a Tgirl desires a man and a man desires a Tgirl why can't it just happen. Sadly I know reality isn't this way and society still struggles to accept it.

One thing that makes me happy is the acceptance of transgender into the military. The transition is paid for by the DOD and you don't have to go through with the full SRS to recive the benifits. Acceptance to open serve is a good thing. This gives opportunity to obtain government jobs and other companies will follow suit. This will help keep girls off the streets and as a result off drugs and they will live happier and healthier lives. I personally think the future is bright and as a military officer I do support this.


This was a bit off topic.

[SXFX]

Ok wow
First thing first kevmart87 (http://www.hungangels.com/vboard/member.php?175321-kevmart87).....bro a huge hug! no joke no homo no nothing man you deserve a hug and a beer for what you wrote.
It's funny in this modern age if a woman comes out and says she's not happy with....anything the world falls to her feet offering her support and telling her she is ok and all will be ok.

If a man comes forth.....and this takes guts.....and states he's in trouble he's feeling trapped stressed and just ready to loose his mind.....what do we tell him? man up? stiff upper lip? or worse......you get called a fag or a homo or a snowflake?
And i think this fucking sucks! What you wrote and continued to write took guts! more guts than a vast majority of men have..
So take a deep breath and remember unloading emotional baggage into the digital waste takes guts!

Ok so gosh 7+ years ago i was in your exact same boat.....i was married to a beautiful young woman, short little blond hair blue eyed thing that i was just madly in love with.....and i use to fantasize about TS pron all the time too...much like you same story....
Except while at university i did meet a very cute TS girl and her and i did mess around a little.....no sex.

7 years into my marriage to my now x wife i realized that for a vast majority of it my sex drive was higher and my kink level was also much higher.....i was always the one who had my hands on her .....and i discovered i was living in hell.....hell is being madly in love with someone who you share your life with your bed with but who has no desire to be sexual with you.....lived it hated it almost drank myself to death! And yes like your wife my x wife use to say she was Bi.....which by the way is a total crock of shit....women say they are Bi like they are eating chips....they say it because they will NEVER have to actually do anything about it.....so when your wife tells you she's Bi...just smile and know it's most likely BS

So there was the divorce which she informed me of via a text message and being broke as a joke and stuck in an under water mortgage and i was broken....and some how some way i bumped into this really amazing woman who just happened to be TS.......
worst possible time worst possible way....broken fat from the drinking and depressed as all fuck.....and just looking to lash out at the world and there she was......she was and will always be amazing....she saved me from....well .... me =)

Was the sex good? OMG YES! But you know what was better.....the sleep! even if we didn't have sex just having her in my arms at night felt.......it felt like i could breath again....or for the first time....

You my good friend are between a rock and a hard place......there are no real easy answers here....and odds are your wife will not be happy since GG women HATE TS women....so the odds of her letting another person into the relationship...let alone a TS woman.....good luck.

I hate to say it but....fuck the happiest guys i know have something on the side......or are buying something on the side.
Women....they get off emotionally and physically on "HAVING" the "LIFE" ....we men get off on "LIFE"

Sadly very few times do the two lines cross. Best of luck to you....you are not a fag you are not a homo and like a vast majority you will not enjoy pegging and it's not your thing.......best of luck brother best of luck!

[gaysian71]

I don't mean to be a dick, but. It looks like you only have a few options here.

1. Tell her everything you told her in your original post and see where that gets you. If she gives you positive feedback, you will probably need option #2.

2. If leaving her is not an option, go and get Conversion Therapy. Theres probably about a 99.9% chance that it won't work, but a lot of conservatives say it does. I guess they have done it. Lol.

3. Divorce your wife and find a trans woman to marry or date. I promise you, if you pick a good woman she will be everything you ever wanted and more. Just keep in mind that even though she may be trans, she is still a woman. So if you have problems with you current wife because she is a woman. You will have the same problems with a trans wife.

If I were you, I would go with option #3.

[kevmart87]

I understand the reason people are recommending divorce. I'm a man who loves his wife but also deeply wants to be with transwomen. I could have some side action with a Tgirl and still be with my wife and that maybe that work for some, but I'd be crushed and feel terrible. Honestly the thought a crossed my mind...

I would never give my integrity away, onces it's gone it almost impossible to earn it back. I took an oath (vows) when I married my wife, just like I took an oath for my country and I will not break those oaths. Part of the vows are for better or worse. This is a "for worse" time and I owe her to try and make our marriage work. Whether or not I confess, choose counseling or just suppress my deep desire I owe it to her.

I'm am deeply saddened that I will never make love to a beautiful transwomen. In life we make sacrifices and sometime we don't get what we want. I can't have have my cake (wife) and eat it (be with Tgirl) too.

It's a harsh world we live in.

Thanks for all the advice and listening to me. Your all awesome!

[kevmart87]

Came completely clean... About my porn and masterbation addiction. I also mentioned my attraction to tranwomen. I just wanted to be honest with my wife, she considered it as cheating. This all happen over FaceTime (accidentally, she was glad I was not there) and I'm deployed and will be home soon. I was excited to come home to her, now I will come home to a cold angry wife who may want a divorce.

Honesty late in the game = crash and burn hard.

I could not of said anything and continued to live a lie, tried to fix things and keep a secret but in the end I chose this. Scared I'm heading to an ugly devorce. Good bye half my shit, half my retirement and years of alimony. The price I pay for being what I am, a husband with a secret.


For those who warned me.... You were right.

[SXFX]

Dude.....bro.....shit.......it's going to be ok.
I know it' sounds nuts but you are going to be ok.
It's going to be dark at first...it's going to be fucking dark as fuck......but it will be better.....
Trust me!
Sx

[SXFX]

hey assholes....the man is down no kicking him ok....that shit just makes you look like a flaming pile of shit.....so stop it!

[kevmart87]

Dude.....bro.....shit.......it's going to be ok.
I know it' sounds nuts but you are going to be ok.
It's going to be dark at first...it's going to be fucking dark as fuck......but it will be better.....
Trust me!
Sx

She told me she doesn't know if she can love me ever again... She asked me all sorts of questions like; am I gay, do I want to be a women, want to be penetrated, etc. I explained that I just like beautiful women regardless of what's in their pants and I personally like that I can relate to their genitals. She started to get angry and told me If i fucked her more I'd understood a pussy more. I ended up defending trans rights after she called them gay men, it didn't help at all.

I told her it really just a porn thing and she didn't ask and we didn't get into the whole topic of actually wanting to be with a transwomen. I told her I was clean from TS and porn for 28 days but she fears that when I get angry or upset that I will replace back into it. Which is warranted because I really do and I'm fighting it.

I was too honest about it and abit defensive and political on how I was handling it. She wanted me to give her some sympathy for her loss, I felt like such a POS. Thought my wife would give me a few points for honesty but instead I just keep digging a deeper hole. I'm now some abnormal freak and not the man she thought she married. She won't talk to me at all.

I thought I would feel better for getting it off my chest but I now just feel worse.

[Kmbrly]

Treating us like a dirty little secret (that you need to confess to, whether you do or don't) is both a huge turn-off and very cringey. Your wife is feeling that too. There's no denying that your little head had some input on this, but in reality the average person feels cucked as fuck finding out their partner gets off on other people. Not sure why you expected anything else.

[kevmart87]

Treating us like a dirty little secret (that you need to confess to, whether you do or don't) is both a huge turn-off and very cringey. Your wife is feeling that too. There's no denying that your little head had some input on this, but in reality the average person feels cucked as fuck finding out their partner gets off on other people. Not sure why you expected anything else.

Your right I understand her angle in this. I should of told her when we first started to get serious, but I choose not to put of fear that she would leave me. After seeing her reaction, she would of definitely left me. I didn't like keeping it a secret, yet a lot of society (including my wife) thinks very negatively. She sent me pics and videos of pasable TS and said why do you like two watch two men have sex. For about two hours I defended that TS are women. She just doesnt get it and doesn't want to. I'm not sure why I'm even trying to convince her to be alittle more enlightened about sexual identity. Its hard to hear my wife say such offensive things about TS.

This is why I held it back, not because I was ashamed but because my wife will never understand and I knew it would devistate her. I get that I hurt her badly, but I had no idea she was capable of such close minded and arrogant thinking.

Reguardless, I am not the victim here, but the perpetrator.

[tacocorpv2]

Marriage Contract... should have been done. At the end of the day this will serve as a good lesson to you and possibly to other men too. I feel sorry for both of you (you & wife) Hopefully you can solve this situation.

[nysprod]

Marriage Contract... should have been done. At the end of the day this will serve as a good lesson to you and possibly to other men too. I feel sorry for both of you (you & wife) Hopefully you can solve this situation.

The only solution for this situation is for the parties to move on.

[tsluvus]

I read the entire thread and first I think it is very IRRESPONSIBLE of those suggesting he just divorces his wife. Divorce is NOT a fun thing.
It is obvious to me that you do care and love your wife but you have desires/fantasies in being with a T-girl.

From experience, I am married and my wife had suspicion that I was having an affair. I decided to fess up and told her I was having an affair for 1 year with Marcinha de Belem while I was living in Brazil. This was not a paid per service sexual thing but it was a very emotional affair, we would go out to dinner, hang out, talk on the phone for hours.

My wife is Gorgeous, Very sexual, naughty, kinky, loves anal, everything a guy would want in a woman sexually but she had some temperamental issues as well.

When I told her, she was very sad, told me if you love you don't cheat, that she would never do it, etc... She was destroyed because she was so open sexually she would be willing to bring a t-girl for us to play with.

But for as much as I was involved with Marcinha, I did love my wife and I was NOT ready to leave her. So we eventually worked things out but as I found out now almost 3 years later it has had its drawbacks.
She did take revenge on me and had herself a few nights with other guys.
I expected it because she wanted to hurt me so I could feel what she did, but as must as I got upset it didn't hurt me, because of our sexual relationship we've played in 3somes before. She wanted me to be hurt, so I played along but i wasn't hurt but I really was upset because she said she would never do it and she would never degrade herself - so to me she just lied (I know pot kettle black).
More often than not now during fights she will call me a cock sucker, closet fag, shemale slut... It would get me really at angry at first but now I tune it out and I decided to understand that she was hurt by it so from time to time she lashes out.

I love t-girls, I get really turned on by a t-girl.
The person that commented about 90% of them being paid, drugs, have issues, etc... You are clueless. I have met many amazing t-grils in my lifetime now. And there are 2 or 3 that I would date and marry in a heartbeat. But all were at the wrong time in my life and one was living in italy at the time.

My suggestion to you is since this is just a fantasy as of right now, GO TRY ONE!!!
You SHOULD NEVER leave your wife over a fantasy without tasting it first.
Meet one, take her out to dinner, have fun in bed, kiss her, talk to her...
Also figure it out what you want.
Ask yourself this, would you be ashamed to be seen in public with a t-girl? If you are than NEVER leave your wife. You can still jerk off and even have an encounter here and there to satisfy your craving.

Today I am very secure of myself that if I ever end up divorcing my wife I would date only T-girls. Women are very emotional beings and will use whatever information you fess up to against you - telling the truth will only get you so far in some cases.
And I know with a T-girl you have other issues to deal with.

Peace

[gaysian71]

I read the entire thread and first I think it is very IRRESPONSIBLE of those suggesting he just divorces his wife. Divorce is NOT a fun thing.
It is obvious to me that you do care and love your wife but you have desires/fantasies in being with a T-girl.

From experience, I am married and my wife had suspicion that I was having an affair. I decided to fess up and told her I was having an affair for 1 year with Marcinha de Belem while I was living in Brazil. This was not a paid per service sexual thing but it was a very emotional affair, we would go out to dinner, hang out, talk on the phone for hours.

My wife is Gorgeous, Very sexual, naughty, kinky, loves anal, everything a guy would want in a woman sexually but she had some temperamental issues as well.

When I told her, she was very sad, told me if you love you don't cheat, that she would never do it, etc... She was destroyed because she was so open sexually she would be willing to bring a t-girl for us to play with.

But for as much as I was involved with Marcinha, I did love my wife and I was NOT ready to leave her. So we eventually worked things out but as I found out now almost 3 years later it has had its drawbacks.
She did take revenge on me and had herself a few nights with other guys.
I expected it because she wanted to hurt me so I could feel what she did, but as must as I got upset it didn't hurt me, because of our sexual relationship we've played in 3somes before. She wanted me to be hurt, so I played along but i wasn't hurt but I really was upset because she said she would never do it and she would never degrade herself - so to me she just lied (I know pot kettle black).
More often than not now during fights she will call me a cock sucker, closet fag, shemale slut... It would get me really at angry at first but now I tune it out and I decided to understand that she was hurt by it so from time to time she lashes out.

I love t-girls, I get really turned on by a t-girl.
The person that commented about 90% of them being paid, drugs, have issues, etc... You are clueless. I have met many amazing t-grils in my lifetime now. And there are 2 or 3 that I would date and marry in a heartbeat. But all were at the wrong time in my life and one was living in italy at the time.

My suggestion to you is since this is just a fantasy as of right now, GO TRY ONE!!!
You SHOULD NEVER leave your wife over a fantasy without tasting it first.
Meet one, take her out to dinner, have fun in bed, kiss her, talk to her...
Also figure it out what you want.
Ask yourself this, would you be ashamed to be seen in public with a t-girl? If you are than NEVER leave your wife. You can still jerk off and even have an encounter here and there to satisfy your craving.

Today I am very secure of myself that if I ever end up divorcing my wife I would date only T-girls. Women are very emotional beings and will use whatever information you fess up to against you - telling the truth will only get you so far in some cases.
And I know with a T-girl you have other issues to deal with.

Peace

Wow, you and the OP are a joke. I hope you realize that you and him not only broke your wives hearts. But then after their hearts were broken, you ripped them out. That my friend makes you a joke. And if you don't understand how you could have both broken your wife's heart and the ripped it out. Then you are very dense as well.

The fact of the matter is that men who are attracted to trans women will never be truly happy being married to a genetic woman. The desire to be with a trans woman will never fade. It's not like it's just some phase you are going through that will pass with time. It's something that will always be with you for the rest of your life.

I would advise that both of you get a divorce and find a nice trans woman to settle down with. I promise you will be a happy man. Right now you and the OP are just making your lives miserable. And not only are you making your life miserable, you're making your spouse's life miserable.

[KelliBlueEyes]

Wow, you and the OP are a joke. I hope you realize that you and him not only broke your wives hearts. But then after their hearts were broken, you ripped them out. That my friend makes you a joke. And if you don't understand how you could have both broken your wife's heart and the ripped it out. Then you are very dense as well.

The fact of the matter is that men who are attracted to trans women will never be truly happy being married to a genetic woman. The desire to be with a trans woman will never fade. It's not like it's just some phase you are going through that will pass with time. It's something that will always be with you for the rest of your life.

I would advise that both of you get a divorce and find a nice trans woman to settle down with. I promise you will be a happy man. Right now you and the OP are just making your lives miserable. And not only are you making your life miserable, you're making your spouse's life miserable.


Gaysian71 I love you

[nysprod]

Gaysian71 I love you

I love you both

[kevmart87]

I read the entire thread and first I think it is very IRRESPONSIBLE of those suggesting he just divorces his wife. Divorce is NOT a fun thing.
It is obvious to me that you do care and love your wife but you have desires/fantasies in being with a T-girl.

From experience, I am married and my wife had suspicion that I was having an affair. I decided to fess up and told her I was having an affair for 1 year with Marcinha de Belem while I was living in Brazil. This was not a paid per service sexual thing but it was a very emotional affair, we would go out to dinner, hang out, talk on the phone for hours.

My wife is Gorgeous, Very sexual, naughty, kinky, loves anal, everything a guy would want in a woman sexually but she had some temperamental issues as well.

When I told her, she was very sad, told me if you love you don't cheat, that she would never do it, etc... She was destroyed because she was so open sexually she would be willing to bring a t-girl for us to play with.

But for as much as I was involved with Marcinha, I did love my wife and I was NOT ready to leave her. So we eventually worked things out but as I found out now almost 3 years later it has had its drawbacks.
She did take revenge on me and had herself a few nights with other guys.
I expected it because she wanted to hurt me so I could feel what she did, but as must as I got upset it didn't hurt me, because of our sexual relationship we've played in 3somes before. She wanted me to be hurt, so I played along but i wasn't hurt but I really was upset because she said she would never do it and she would never degrade herself - so to me she just lied (I know pot kettle black).
More often than not now during fights she will call me a cock sucker, closet fag, shemale slut... It would get me really at angry at first but now I tune it out and I decided to understand that she was hurt by it so from time to time she lashes out.

I love t-girls, I get really turned on by a t-girl.
The person that commented about 90% of them being paid, drugs, have issues, etc... You are clueless. I have met many amazing t-grils in my lifetime now. And there are 2 or 3 that I would date and marry in a heartbeat. But all were at the wrong time in my life and one was living in italy at the time.

My suggestion to you is since this is just a fantasy as of right now, GO TRY ONE!!!
You SHOULD NEVER leave your wife over a fantasy without tasting it first.
Meet one, take her out to dinner, have fun in bed, kiss her, talk to her...
Also figure it out what you want.
Ask yourself this, would you be ashamed to be seen in public with a t-girl? If you are than NEVER leave your wife. You can still jerk off and even have an encounter here and there to satisfy your craving.

Today I am very secure of myself that if I ever end up divorcing my wife I would date only T-girls. Women are very emotional beings and will use whatever information you fess up to against you - telling the truth will only get you so far in some cases.
And I know with a T-girl you have other issues to deal with.

Peace

Thanks for the reply, I really appreciate your support and understanding.

I won't try a Tgirl as long as I'm with my wife. I could never do it as it would tear her apart and myself. However, I fear she may go seek revenge for all my years of masturbating and Tgirl attraction. If that happens then either; A) she will buy me a Tgirl for the night (ludicrous I know) if she wants to salvage the relationship or B) divorce her for cheating. Currently I don't think she has taken revenge or plans on it, I think she wants to try and save this relationship.



Wow, you and the OP are a joke. I hope you realize that you and him not only broke your wives hearts. But then after their hearts were broken, you ripped them out. That my friend makes you a joke. And if you don't understand how you could have both broken your wife's heart and the ripped it out. Then you are very dense as well.

The fact of the matter is that men who are attracted to trans women will never be truly happy being married to a genetic woman. The desire to be with a trans woman will never fade. It's not like it's just some phase you are going through that will pass with time. It's something that will always be with you for the rest of your life.

I would advise that both of you get a divorce and find a nice trans woman to settle down with. I promise you will be a happy man. Right now you and the OP are just making your lives miserable. And not only are you making your life miserable, you're making your spouse's life miserable.


I could of kept this from my wife but she caught me years ago and I lied that it went away. It was not easy to come clean and yea I tore her heart open and continue to hurt her as I refuse to lie and promise her that Ill get over Tgirls.

Getting a divorce and finding a nice trans woman to settle down is not easy and nor should it be the first solution.

I can be stronger then that. I will try my hardest to suppress my trans desires and win my wife back.

[fred41]

You never mentioned children. Do you have any... or plan on having them? How many years are you married now? These are important questions when it comes to a relationship such as marriage. I really think you should go see a licensed therapist (not a marriage counselor) ...it very well could help with some of your problems and will also help guide you in making the right decision.

What is the deal with the potential alimony you mentioned? Does she have a job at all or is she a stay at home mom?...Also, try to remember that staying together simply to honor an oath will not help either one of you if things just get worse.
If there are no children involved and you are both still young, it is often better to break up and give you each a chance with a better match down the road, instead of dealing with a sexless marriage that may be filled with distrust and constant bickering.

[nysprod]

I will try my hardest to suppress my trans desires and win my wife back.

Ridiculous. It'll never work. The only possible outcome will be that both of you end up more miserable than you are now.

[tacocorpv2]

He could try that hypnosis stuff, personally I don't believe in it but who knows... Make the desire to go away so to speak. :D

[Ts RedVeX]

My grandma always said: "If he comes back for the night, then it's all good". (And they had been married with my grandad for over 60 years.)

If your wife doesn't want to be with you any more, she will do everything to use this situation to get free.

If she does want to be with you, then you will stay together. Only now, you know eachother better.

nysprod is right. Unless you want to have a toxic relationship. I would try to use the fact that you are out to my advantage if I were in your shoes. After all, nothing has changed in what you feel towards your wife. You have had this thing for trans girls all the way and your marriage was fine, so it should remain like that. The problem is that you have lost your wife's trust rather than that you are attracted to tgirls.

[tsluvus]

My point is you should NEVER divorce your wife/spouse because you are masturbating to shemale porn. That is insane and completely irresponsible and those giving that kind of advice have no clue about relationships.
A marriage is not a piece of paper that you just discard like that.

I agree that you won't be able suppress.

OP keep your wife which I am sure you love and continue to jerk off to shemale porn.
I don't see the harm here.

And I don't understand why someone said that OP broke her trust.
He didn't cheat so what trust did the OP break?
The trust he should be watching straight porn?

[SXFX]

Treating us like a dirty little secret (that you need to confess to, whether you do or don't) is both a huge turn-off and very cringey. Your wife is feeling that too. There's no denying that your little head had some input on this, but in reality the average person feels cucked as fuck finding out their partner gets off on other people. Not sure why you expected anything else.

sorry to grad this off topic....but maybe because i live near NYC.....but women GG women are very threatened by TS women!
It's a visceral angry kind of anger!
I've seen so many fights where the GG woman looses her shit when she is half drunk and bumps into a attractive TS woman....it's scary! ladies be careful! please!

now back to your regularly scheduled story.....

[blackchubby38]

If you go back and look at the OP's initial post, people told him to get a divorce after he told his wife about his interest in transsexuals and because of what her reaction to that confession was going to be. Its not just because he was masturbating to shemale porn. Its because he has a sexual desire and attraction to them that many people feel that he will eventually succumb to and wind up cheating on his wife. When that happens, then he will have truly broken her heart and her trust.

Of course divorce is never easy. But sometimes doing the right thing never is.


My point is you should NEVER divorce your wife/spouse because you are masturbating to shemale porn. That is insane and completely irresponsible and those giving that kind of advice have no clue about relationships.
A marriage is not a piece of paper that you just discard like that.

I agree that you won't be able suppress.

OP keep your wife which I am sure you love and continue to jerk off to shemale porn.
I don't see the harm here.

And I don't understand why someone said that OP broke her trust.
He didn't cheat so what trust did the OP break?
The trust he should be watching straight porn?


Many years ago I was a member here. One day I met a women, I fell in love and requested my account be deleted. I'm now married to that women. She is beautiful, loving and truly irreplaceable. Our sex life has been on the fritz for many years and lately my sex drive has ramp'd up a lot and I started confessing that I want our sex life to be better and more adventurous.

Simple right, Fuck your wife.

No so easy.

Many years ago (6ish) she discovered that I was into Tgirl porn. She was not happy to say the least and I down played it the best I could. She has always been cautious since then (I guess for good reason) and lately my sexual awaking is making her ask questions instead of being excited. She wants the full truth, but I am afraid to tell her as she already calls me a "closet" homo because I don't give her body enough attentions. I am ready to get in front of this, but I don't want to over speak and scare her off.

So this is the truth about my obsession. A warning to the transwomen in the forums, I'm sorry if I come across as some chaser, admirer and/or pig who objectifies Tgirls. I have never got to know a real Tgirl in person, so I apologized for making assumptions. To me you are women inside and out and not just some sex object. These are my deepest sexual desires and feelings on my attraction to Tgirls.

About 12 years ago in my early twenties, I stumbled into Tgirl porn and it blew my mind, since then I have exclusive masturbated to it. In fact I masturbate up to ten times a day on some occasions to Tgirls. There is something about a beautiful women with a hard-on. It seems so genuine to me, I can visibly see she is really turned on, its very exciting. Watching a Tgirl get penetrated by a man or have fellatio performed on her till the point of her ejaculation seems so real and unfakeable. I understand the feeling of having a hard on and the feeling of ejaculating and the though of making a beautiful Tgirl orgasm and ejaculate is absolutely amazing. I feel like it would be more rewarding then going down on a GG. I have read and been told that alot of Tgirls do not want or care for fellatio, but the though of bringing her to orgasm with proof (ejaculating in mouth) seems so empowering and sexy. I also feel a tgirl would better understand a mans penis and the male sex drive. Then there is the possibility of giving her a prostate orgasm and watching the result. There is just something about giving someone sexual pleasure that turns me on and well making someone cum especially a tgirl is like watching fireworks, it simply takes my breath away every time. This overly sexual, my apologies.

I love the idea of sex with a tgirl and do regret not trying it before I met my wife. I was never ok with the idea of an escort because of the legal and health risks. I wish I had the courage to find a nice tgirl and have had a fling with her. If I would of fell in love fine, I was looking for relationship back then anyways. I just didn't have the self confidence back then. Maybe my sexual fantasies are delusional but in my head and loins it just seems so right. The idea of a Tgirl is, is amazing and powerful and puts feelings in my chest that make me quiver.

Unfortunately, my wife while I do love to make love to her and go down on her can't fulfill the fantasy of a Tgirl. I have glamorized Tgirls and put them on a pedestal as the ultimate sexual partner. I feel my desires will never go away and I don't fear that, I only fear that one day I will die without experiencing the pleasures of a Tgirl.

I don't plan on cheating on my wife nor leaving her to experience what I am so obviously obsessed with. I do want to fix our sex life and make her happy. I am willing to come out about this, I am scared and obviously I can not confess how deeply turned on I am by Tgirls as it will make her feel inadequate. Currently I'm starting a No Fap reboot (no porn or masturbation) to try and learn to suppress my desires. I'm not sure what the result of coming clean will produces but if she truly loves me then maybe she will accept it. She may however be crushed and not accept it and put us through a very expensive and painful divorce. Either way she wants to know the truth. Also my wife admits to being Bi but her attitude about men being Bi is rather negative and while I'm ready to admit my attracting to pre-op transsexuals, she will probably consider me a homosexual. I have never been turned on by another man, masculine nor effeminate. The male body just doesn't turn me on. Convince her of that will prove to be a challenge if I tell her I want to perform fellatio on a tgirl.


Any advice or incite will be greatly appreciated.

[gaysian71]

Gaysian71 I love you

Wow!!! Thank you Kelli.

[Ts RedVeX]

I think he broke her trust because I am 100% sure she thinks that either he had cheated on her or is going to do it.

The idea of getting a divorce over a sexual fantasy is just ridiculous and immature.

[kevmart87]

To fill in a few gaps of info:

-Been trans attracted for 12 years.
-Been with my wife for 7 years. 6 years ago she discovered my attraction.
-Lied for the last 6 years that I was over it.
-No kids, she does odd jobs as a military spouse.
-Were together before I enlisted.
-Wife is my first and only lover.
-Wife and I are approaching our mid-30s.

Coming out to my wife was very difficult and it was extremely hard to watch her reaction. In her mind she was married to her perfect man. A kinds, smart, handsome, fit, military officer and she enjoyed perks of traveling around the world and live a very cushy life with a lot of benefits. Over night I went from an "officer and a gentleman" to in her opinion a possible homosexual who only married her so I had arm candy. Her being my first love is a huge problem for her as she feels I felt obligated to marry her and I remained a single virgin till I met her because I was possibly in the closet.

She tells me she crys every night now till the early morning. Her mind is racing with so many thoughts and has no trust for anything I say. Which is warranted. The internet isn't helping as similar story from other angry wife's all end in disasterous ways.

I always though coming out would be liberating instead I traded one pain for a greater one. My wife is so confused and heart broken. It's so painful to see her like this. The worst part is I can't even make her feel secure by promising this will go away, It won't and I'm not going to lie.

My attraction to transwomen (pre-op/non-op) is primal. Sometimes about a girl with a hardon makes want to top them with an animalistic energy. It is something I have felt for no GG and I do get excited for GG but this is different. Thank goodness I'm in control of my urges and have zero game with women, keeps me from making poor decisions. Anyways this won't go away.

[tsluvus]

I think your wife needs to realize she has a good man that even though you have these fantasies/desires you still haven't acted on it.

Perhaps you can go a different route and this might not work for you or her.

My wife is very open sexually.
So the solution we came up with is we will fulfill each other's sexual fantasy with each other present and participating.
And that might work for you.

Take her to a sexually charge environment, like a Swingers club. You don't have to participate, just watch. See her reaction.

You both are in the middle of your sexual peak - Don't waste it.
Find a middle ground, let her act out a fantasy then you act yours.

It will make you both stronger and create a bigger bond.

There is nothing like being able to share you naughty desires with someone you love, makes it more enjoyable.
You will have incredible adventures and the orgasm will be more intense.

I am amazed you were able to hold out this long, it speaks volume in my book of your desire to remain faithful.

Guys have primal instincts that can be difficult to control.

[kevmart87]

I think your wife needs to realize she has a good man that even though you have these fantasies/desires you still haven't acted on it.

Perhaps you can go a different route and this might not work for you or her.

My wife is very open sexually.
So the solution we came up with is we will fulfill each other's sexual fantasy with each other present and participating.
And that might work for you.

Take her to a sexually charge environment, like a Swingers club. You don't have to participate, just watch. See her reaction.

You both are in the middle of your sexual peak - Don't waste it.
Find a middle ground, let her act out a fantasy then you act yours.

It will make you both stronger and create a bigger bond.

There is nothing like being able to share you naughty desires with someone you love, makes it more enjoyable.
You will have incredible adventures and the orgasm will be more intense.

I am amazed you were able to hold out this long, it speaks volume in my book of your desire to remain faithful.

Guys have primal instincts that can be difficult to control.

She does realize that I'm a decent man...

However, shes confused about my sexual orientation. She just cant wrap her mind around a transwomen being a women and not a man. She point blank asked me if I would have sex with a tgirl (not like cheating just in general) I basically said I don't know but after a repeated questioning I just said yes. Honesty is making things worse.... Now she knows my ultimate fantasy and told me I should of married a transgirl and then questioned me If Id try to have a threesome with a trans and if id penetrate them and play with their dick. It was such an awkward conversation. She feel that one day when we have kids and shes busy with the kids and fat that Ill cheat with a transgirl. She thinks my desire to have anal sex with her is trans driven so I can pretend I with a trans women. She asked how id feel if she wore a strap-on while I fucked her and I was like I feel its a bit wired (silly) and she got all mad because I want a real penis.

I just can't say the right thing here.

The only positive thing is her hair dresser is a transwomen and she had a conversation with her today and invited her over and I guess she will get to know a transgirl personally. I feel my wife will confide in this women, it could be good or bad....

She thinks I need to see a therapist, because I suffer from gynemimetophilia. I dont suffer from anything.

[kevmart87]

Update:

My wife is slowly starting to understand and wants to rebuild our relationship. I don't think she will ever let me explore my tran attraction but we are married so I will honer my vows.

It's going to be hard, but at least all the cards are on the table.

[Vladimir Putin]

I will try my hardest to suppress my trans desires and win my wife back.

You may win your wife back, but you won't succeed in suppressing your trans desires. If she finds out you still have a wandering eye to trans women, she will leave you the next time.

Speaking for myself, I am at the point where it would be suicide for me to get married to a GG. I would be better off marrying a TS.